Rock Your Role

Rock Your Role: A Head of the Times- Head Coverings for Christian Women? (1 Corinthians 11:1-16)

Rock Your Role is a series examining the โ€œgo toโ€ and hot button Scriptures that relate to and help us understand our role as women in the church. Donโ€™t forget to prayerfully consider our three key questions as you read.

Every man who prays or prophesies with his head covered dishonors his head, but every wife who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, since it is the same as if her head were shaven… Judge for yourselves: is it proper for a wife to pray to God with her head uncovered?
1 Corinthians 11: 4-5, 13

In this series, we’ve been examining the biblical passages that define and give shape to our role as godly women in the church. We’ve taken a look at the different roles God has laid out for men and women in the church and the passages of Scripture people commonly like to twist to argue against the clear teaching of God’s word about those roles.

But aside from a very small minority of folks, no one is arguing that Christian women need to wear some sort of head covering in church or while praying. Most of us seem to instinctively know that the first half of 1 Corinthians 11 is not a command that is binding on 21st century American women. So why even bring up this passage in this series?

Because much like the tiresome “Leviticus also prohibits eating shellfish and wearing garments of mixed fibers!” argument repeatedly trotted out by those offended when Christians rightly call homosexuality a sin, 1 Corinthians 11 is used by feminists, egalitarians, and others as a “gotcha” passage against Christians who rightly uphold the biblical roles of men and women in the church. “If you believe women shouldn’t preach, teach men, or hold authority over men in the church,” they say, “then why don’t you wear a head covering? See? You’re a hypocrite! You pick and choose which Scriptures you’ll obey!”

What they (and often we) don’t realize – because this passage takes some digging and study – is that women who obey Scripture’s parameters for biblical womanhood (submitting to their husbands, following God’s role for women in the church, etc.) are “wearing a head covering.”

First Timothy 2:11-15, the most commonly cited biblical prohibition against women teaching or exercising authority over men in the church, works hand in glove with 1 Corinthians 11:1-16. Both passages deal with male and female roles and authority in the church. But, whereas, in 1 Timothy God gives only universally applicable, unchanging reasons for His instruction that women are not to teach or exercise authority over men in the church (the creative order {verse 13}, and the deception of Eve {verse 14}), in 1 Corinthians, He gives both universal reasons (3, 8-9, 11-12) and transient, man-made, cultural customs (head coverings and hair length) as an additional illustration of the principle He is teaching.

First Corinthians is something of a “policy and procedure manual” for the church. Through Paul’s letter, the Holy Spirit is instructing the church at Corinth, and, subsequently, us, on everything from orderliness in the worship service, to love, lawsuits, marriage, idolatry, and other issues of importance. Chapter 11 fits right in with the flow of instruction. God decided the church needed to be taught about authority and gender roles and inspired Paul to pen this section.

As chapter 11 opens, Paul commends the church at Corinth for keeping God’s word as Paul had taught them (2), but, apparently, something was out of whack with the authority structure and the way men and women were behaving in the church, because Paul immediately pivots to say,

“But I want you to understand…” (3)

In other words, “You’ve been doing pretty well in these other areas, but this area needs some improvement so I’m going to give you very clear instruction about it. Listen up.”

If you’ve ever taken a composition class, you know that persuasive or instructive writing often follows the format of presenting a thesis statement (the main point of your paper) and then supporting or proving that thesis statement with evidence, examples, or logical arguments. This is the format Paul seems to follow in this section.

Why is this important?

Because those who use this passage to argue against the biblical roles of men and women either misunderstand or ignore the main point the Holy Spirit is trying to teach in these verses.

The thesis statement of this passage of Scripture is not found in the verses mentioning head coverings and haircuts. It is found in verse 3:

But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

In other words, the entire point of this section of Scripture is not that women should wear head coverings, the point is the biblical line of succession of authority. Head coverings, head shaving, short haircuts, and long hair are examples, illustrations, and logical arguments supporting the main point in verse 3.

God is the head of Christ, Christ is the head of man, and man is the head of his wife. And, similar to the way that Christ has a different role in the godhead than God the Father, yet is not in any way inferior to Him, women have a different role in marriage and the church than men, yet are equal to them in value, worth, and salvation. (11) Paul proceeds to explain this by using head coverings and hair lengths- commonplace marks of apparel whose function and significance would have been easily understood by his first century audience -to illustrate his point.

At that particular time, in that particular locale, among those particular people, a head covering was worn by married women to signify a) that they were married, and b) that they respected and were in submission to their husbands. For the women of the church of Corinth, it was a symbol that they understood and embraced their role as godly wives. A woman who pointedly refused to wear her head covering in church would have been making a statement akin to, “I can do what I want. I don’t have to do what my husband, my church leadership, or even God says.” (Kind of like women in the church today who argue against biblical womanhood so vehemently.) By doing so, she dishonored both her own head (herself) and the “head” of her home, her husband. Worst of all, she rejected and rebelled against the authority structure God Himself established.

In a way, refusing to wear the head covering would have been similar to a wife today who takes off her wedding ring and flings it at her husband when she’s angry or leaves her ring at home when she goes out because she’s on the prowl for another man. It’s not the mere act of removing the ring itself that is intrinsically wrong, but, rather, the symbolic statement she makes by removing it.

Head coverings are no longer a cultural norm in Western society. Christian women today do not have to wear a literal head covering, but even from the earliest Old Testament times godly women have always adorned themselves with “a symbol of authority” (10) on their heads: their humility and submission to their husbands and to Christ, in the home, in the church, and in the world.

Do not let your adorning be externalโ€”the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wearโ€” but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. 1 Peter 3:3-7

If you’re following in Sarah’s footsteps, striving to love Christ and obey His written word in all you do, you are already “wearing a head covering.” So the next time someone tries to use this passage of Scripture against you, asking, “Why don’t you wear a head covering?” you can confidently answer, “I do. Why don’t you?”


Additional Resources:

Here are some great resources that get into more of the specific details of this passage.

Discovering Head Covering at A Word Fitly Spoken

Understanding Head Coverings, Part 1 – 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 by Robb Brunansky (scroll down for part 2)

Understanding Head Coverings, Part 2 – 1 Corinthians 11:2-16 by Robb Brunansky

WWUTT 2350 Q&A Head Coverings, Culture or Corporate, Defying Gravity with Gabriel Hughes

What about Headcoverings? with Keith Foskey


F4F | Ask a Pirate Episode 1 (1 Corinthians 11 and headcoverings explained) at Fighting for the Faith

Conviction and Charity: Must Women Wear Head Coverings in Worship? by Scott Aniol

Addressing the Dressing III: Clothes and Roman Culture by Lyndon Unger

Addressing the Dressing IV: Hair and Roman Culture by Lyndon Unger

1 Corinthians 11:2-16- An Interactive Bible Study by Lyndon Unger

Does 1 Corinthians 11:4-5 mean a woman should never ever cut her hair? at CARM

Should Christian women wear head coverings? at Got Questions

It’s a Shame for a Man to Have Long Hair? by WWUTT (When We Understand the Text)

Head Coverings for Women by John MacArthur

Why Donโ€™t You Wear a Head Covering? at G3 Ministries

Headcoverings by Reagan Escude Scott

1 Corinthians 11:1-16 – Episode 1566, 1567, 1568 by Gabriel Hughes on the WWUTT Podcast

Head Coverings, Women Teachers, and Patriarchy with Costi Hinn and Owen Strachan on the For the Gospel Podcast

Women Undercover– No Trash, Just Truth podcast

Discernment

Discernment Hysteria and the God Who Wins

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There are a lot of different facets to Christianity. Thereโ€™s worship. Fellowship with other Christians. Studying Godโ€™s word alone, with our families, and with the local church. Evangelism. Serving at church. Teaching. Discipling other believers. Prayer. All of these things, and others, are vital to a healthy, growing relationship with Christ.

But things can get out of whack if we focus too much on any one of these areas to the neglect of others. Spend too much time in prayer, and you could overlook serving others. Focus on evangelism too much, and your Bible study time might suffer. It can be tricky, but itโ€™s important that we keep a good balance in our walk with the Lord.

If youโ€™re like me you probably have one or two areas that youโ€™re tempted to go overboard in. My temptation is studying, particularly in the area of discernment- false doctrine and false teachers. Itโ€™s a fascinating topic, and people educated in the field of discernment and doctrine are desperately needed in the church today.

But if you spend a lot of time studying discernment โ€“and many do- it can get pretty discouraging pretty quickly. You begin to realize just how pervasive false doctrine is and how many false teachers there are. Itโ€™s in your church, at your childโ€™s Christian school, on your Christian radio and TV stations, in your Christian bookstore. Itโ€™s everywhere. And itโ€™s not just the home grown heretics who spring from the soil of already apostate โ€œchurches.โ€ Weโ€™ve also got men and women who were once trustworthy teachers and preachers of Godโ€™s word turning traitor and joining the forces of evil at an alarming rate. They just keep coming and coming, always more and more. Itโ€™s starting to feel like Invasion of โ€œThe Bodyโ€ Snatchers.

I hear often from women approaching panic and frenzy over the state of the church. And I get that, because I regularly feel the same way. But for all of us, there are some great reasons to take a step back when we get overwhelmed. To breathe, to relax, and to rejoice in some good news in the midst of the heresy hurricane.

God is both sovereign and just.

And praise His name for that. Nothing, and I mean nothing, escapes His notice. He sees everything- every thought, every action. There is going to come a day of reckoning for the enemies of God. They will get exactly what they deserve, and God will be good for punishing them. When itโ€™s all said and done, nobodyโ€™s getting away with anything, and nothing is going to slip through the cracks.

Andย no creature is hidden from his sight, but all areย naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account.
Hebrews 4:13

It is Godโ€™s job to preserve the church, not ours.

Thousands of years. Extreme idolatry and blasphemy. War. Exile. And yet God preserved a remnant of His people throughout the Old Testament. He preserved the church through its infancy of persecution and heresy. And He will continue to preserve His church today. Should we fight false doctrine the best we can? Yes. Will some local churches fold and apostasize? Yes. But, saving the church is way too big a job for us. Ultimately, the burden of preserving the Bride is on the Bridegroom.

Christ loved the church andย gave himself up for her,ย that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her byย the washing of waterย with the word,ย soย that he might present the church to himself in splendor,ย without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:25b-27

Godโ€™s word isnโ€™t changing.

It doesnโ€™t matter how loudly people scream that this sin or that sin is OK. It doesnโ€™t matter how many people teach the most unbiblical false doctrine or how widespread its acceptance is. Godโ€™s word is Godโ€™s word. And Godโ€™s word changes for no man. The Bible – not anyoneโ€™s opinion or the general consensus of sinful humans – is the standard God has issued and the rod of judgment He will wield. Godโ€™s word isnโ€™t going anywhere.

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โ€œAll flesh is like grass
ย ย ย ย and all its glory like the flower of grass.
The grass withers,
ย ย ย ย and the flower falls,
but the word of the Lord remains forever.โ€
1 Peter 1:24-25

The gospel still has the power to save.

God is mightier to save than any false teacher is to deceive. Get out there and keep faithfully scattering that gospel seed and proclaiming Godโ€™s truth. A lot of people will reject it – just like they did when Jesus preached it โ€“ but some will listen and be saved. Theyโ€™re worth it.

Behold,ย theย Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save,ย or his ear dull, that it cannot hear;
Isaiah 59:1

Heaven awaits.

Look around. This is all just temporary. In Heaven, there is no false doctrine. There are no false teachers. There will be no more contending for the faith. We will all finally be able to worship Christ in the splendor of His holiness with out any hint of error impeding us or infiltrating the Body.

Then I sawย a new heaven and a new earth, forย the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more.ย And I sawย the holy city,ย new Jerusalem,ย coming down out of heaven from God, preparedย as a bride adorned for her husband.ย And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, โ€œBehold,ย the dwelling placeย of God is with man. He willย dwell with them, and they will be his people,ย and God himself will be with them as their God.
Revelation 21:1-3

Be encouraged my sisters, and donโ€™t grow weary in well doing.ย Because God is mighty. He is still on His throne. He is still saving souls.

And hear me, and cling to this as you walk through this evil world: God wins.

Let that sink in and drive you to rejoice and worship. The devil may do his worst in the world, but God wins.

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Christian women, Discernment

Women In Combat

Over the last few months, thereโ€™s been a lot of talk about the possibility of future U.S. military drafts including young women in addition to young men. Iโ€™ve admired godly male friends who have spoken out vehemently against this and expressed concern about the government trying to press their daughters or wives into service. Some even vowed to lay their lives down protecting their women from having to face the horrors and dangers of war.

But I wonder if these men โ€“ husbands, fathers, pastors, elders – know that many of their wives, daughters, and sisters in Christ are already in the trenches fighting off the enemy with every ounce of our strength and every weapon at our disposal.

Itโ€™s not a war for territory or political control or freedom from dictatorial tyranny.

Itโ€™s a battle for the purity of the Bride. And the souls of our sisters.

Daily. Weekly. At church. On line. In our families. We strap on our Swords, march out to the front and engage in hand to hand combat with the Enemy.

His troops: false teachers.

His weapon of mass destruction: false doctrine.

Sometimes we stand as a shield between grenade-lobbing grunts and weak sisters who donโ€™t know how to fight, or even that theyโ€™re in a war. Who want nothing more than to knock us down into the mud as they desert our King and join our foes.

Sometimes we infiltrate the enemy camp to bring back intelligence on his troops to our commanders and generals, only to be ignored, reprimanded, or dishonorably discharged from the unit.

Sometimes we stand as guards at the walls of our churches, watching the adversary advance, sounding the alarm, and standing in stunned disbelief as our commanding officers smilingly welcome the enemy troops through the gate.

Why? Why, in a field of pink, are there so few Green Berets? Why is it that so many women are out on the front lines battling this insidious rival while most of our brothers in arms seem to be AWOL?

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As Steve Lawson famously said a few years ago, “Give us some men who knowย the truth!”*

And to that I respond with a hearty amen. But with much love and respect to Brother Steve, I would add:

Give us some men who will DEFEND the truth.

And the weak women the enemy seeks to capture.

And the strong women who should be protected, working safely away from the line of fire to support the troops and nurse the casualties back to health.

Give us men who willโ€ฆ

โ€ฆthoroughly vet any curricula, books, or materials used by their churchโ€™s Bible study classes.

โ€ฆtrain all of their churchโ€™s teachers to properly handle and exegete the word of God.

โ€ฆtake a close look at the authors of the books and blogs their wives or church members are reading and the speakers at the conferences and retreats theyโ€™re attending.

โ€ฆexamine the doctrine of the singers their daughters or youth listen to and the leaders of the youth camps they attend.

โ€ฆspeak out with godly boldness (not jerkiness- godly boldness) against false doctrine and false teachers on social media, in Sunday School, in the sanctuary, in their homes, and in every arena in which they have influence.

โ€ฆjoin the few brave brothers who are already standing in the gap to present a united front to ward off the enemy.

Godly men on active duty in their churches, homes, and in the public square are out there. Iโ€™m privileged to know several. But they need a bigger band of brothers to join them in fighting the good fight.

We need men who will gird up, gear up, and stand up. Because some women in combat are wounded, battle fatigued, and in need of some R&R. And we canโ€™t keep fighting this battle without a few more good men.

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*At the time this article was originally written, Steve Lawsonย wasย a doctrinally sound, trustworthy pastor and theologian. He has since committed disqualifying sin and is no longer in ministry. This mention of his name should not be construed as aย currentย endorsement of Steve Lawson.

Christian women, Ministry

Mary and Martha and Jesus and Women’s Ministry

You remember the story. Jesus comes to Mary and Martha’s house. Martha’s Pinteresting up the place while Mary sits at Jesus’ feet to listen to Him teach. Martha gripes to Jesus that Mary should help her and Jesus says no because it’s better for her to listen to Him than fold napkins into the shape of swans or whatever. Moral of the story- Martha needs to relax and not let other things distract her from Jesus.

Thatโ€™s a good, true, and important takeaway from this passage, and one that we would all do well to heed.

But did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is. Jesus is the main character in every Bible story, so our primary focus should always be on Him: what He said and did and was like.

Did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is.

What was Jesus teaching that day at Mary and Marthaโ€™s house? The passage doesnโ€™t tell us the topic He was speaking about, but we are privy to a very important lesson He imparted through the scenario with Mary and Martha. A lesson about the way God loves and values women.

Remember how women were generally regarded at that time? They didnโ€™t have much more value than livestock, furniture, or a manโ€™s other possessions. They were considered intellectually inferior, they werenโ€™t formally educated, and their legal and social standing were often tenuous at best. They could not go beyond the Court of the Women at the temple for worship. There was even a traditional prayer Jewish men recited in which they thanked God for not making them a woman, a Gentile, or a slave. Women were low man on the totem pole, so to speak.

And thatโ€™s where we find Martha. She wasnโ€™t doing anything wrong that day. In fact, in her culture, she was doing everything right. If anything, Mary would have been the one viewed as being in the wrong because the teaching was for the men, and it was the womenโ€™s job to bustle around taking care of all the hospitality duties. Martha knew this. Mary knew this. Jesus knew this. Everyone else present knew this. Martha must have wondered why someone hadnโ€™t yet shooed Mary out of the living room and into the kitchen. So her statement to Jesus in verse 40, โ€œLord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me,โ€ was probably not just, โ€œI need another pair of hands,โ€ but also a bit of, โ€œMary is forgetting her place. This isnโ€™t what proper women do.โ€

Oh yes, it is.

Whatever else He might have been lecturing about that day, that was one of the lessons Jesus taught Mary, Martha, the rest of their guests, and Christendom at large.

Women arenโ€™t second class citizens in the Kingdom of God. We are precious and valuable to Him. He has important, worthwhile work for us to do โ€“ His way – in the body of Christ. And He wants us trained in His Word in order to carry out that work.

How did Jesus teach that lesson?

First, He allowed Mary to stay and receive His teaching (39). (We see this echoed in Godโ€™s instruction to the church in 1 Timothy 2:11: โ€œLET a woman learnโ€ฆโ€) It hadnโ€™t slipped Jesusโ€™ mind that she was sitting there. He could have told her to leave, but He had no intention of doing so. Jesus wanted Mary there. He wanted to teach her and to have her learn Godโ€™s word from Him.

Next, when someone tried to take Mary away from hearing and being trained in Godโ€™s word, Jesus โ€“ God Himself โ€“ answered with a resounding NO. This โ€œwill not be taken away from her,โ€ Jesus said. Mary, and Martha too (41), could arrange centerpieces or turn a cookie into a work of art any time or never. But this, the teaching of Godโ€™s Word, was urgent. Vital. Jesus didnโ€™t want either of them to miss it by focusing on the trivial things they thought they should be pursuing.

And He doesnโ€™t want us to miss it either, ladies.

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Is the womenโ€™s events page on your churchโ€™s web site filled exclusively with painting parties, fashion shows, ladiesโ€™ teas, and scrapbook sessions?

Does your womenโ€™s ministry do canned โ€œBibleโ€ studies authored by women who offer nothing but personal stories, experiences, and false doctrine?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Jesus didnโ€™t think so.

Letโ€™s have our women’s ministries train women in the full scope of biblical womanhood. Let’s be serious students of Godโ€™s Word by picking it up and studying it like mature women. Letโ€™s get equipped to teach and disciple other women who are babes in Christ. Letโ€™s share the gospel with the lost. Letโ€™s learn how to train our own children in the Scriptures and be the ones to raise the bar for what the kids at our church are being taught. Letโ€™s roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty ministering to those who are ill, in prison, lonely, poor, elderly, considering abortion, experiencing crisis; who have wayward children, problems in their marriages, a parent with Alzheimerโ€™s, or have lost a loved one.

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests. More than cutesy crafts and fairy tales masquerading as biblical teaching. Letโ€™s put the โ€œministryโ€ โ€“ ministry of the Word and ministry to others โ€“ back in โ€œwomenโ€™s ministry.โ€

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests.

Guest Posts

Guest Post: The Ministry of Encouragement

If your theology pretty much matches up with mine (as outlined in the “Welcome” and “Statement of Faith” tabs) and you’d like to contribute a guest post, drop me an e-mail at MichelleLesley1@yahoo.com, and let’s chat about it.

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The Ministry of Encouragement
by Michael Coughlin

How well do you have to know someone before you can speak truth into their life? I had a phone call today with a testimony I wanted to share with you that helps answer that question.

But first, some background information is required. In 2015, I traveled to Indianapolis to assist Sports Fan Outreach International in preaching the gospel to the Final Four fans. I was speaking with another evangelist when he introduced me to his friend, Pam. Pam open air preached, he said. I donโ€™t recall exactly how the conversation went, but I was asked what I thought of that.

Here is where conventional (or dare I say โ€˜worldlyโ€™?) wisdom dictates that I ought to have offered Pam a cup of Starbucks and gotten to know her situation better. Maybe sheโ€™d had a childhood with an abusive father, or had been saved from hearing a woman preacher, right? Surely that insight, as well as building her trust in me was paramount to simply telling her what the Scripture teaches, right?

Well, as you can guess, I disagree. Not that making friends with folks and โ€˜being relationalโ€™ is bad, but I just didnโ€™t have time for that. I was on the streets intending to reach the lost with the gospel and found myself in the conversation. So I gently but firmly explained that I do not believe a woman should preach and shared a couple reasons from Scripture.

She received my explanation and told me that she generally didnโ€™t disagree. Her issue was that, although she thought women ought not preach, the lack of male preachers getting out and doing the work dictated that someone had to. So, in what seemed like an earnest attempt to please the Lord and do His work, she started preaching.

Again, without having more than a 6 minute relationship with her at this point, I explained to her that she was doing exactly what Sarah did when she gave Hagar to Abraham in order to produce the promised child. Sarah, having been given a promise by God, did not see how God would fulfill the promise, so she took the matter into her own hands. Sarah (and Pam), genuinely believed this is how Godโ€™s promise would be fulfilled. I donโ€™t pray for a job and then not send out resumes. Simply โ€œrelying on Godโ€ isnโ€™t an excuse for inaction. But in this case, Sarah (and Pam), had gone outside of the lines God has drawn for us to accomplish things. Sarah committed sin by giving her husband another woman, and Pam was sinning by violating Godโ€™s command to women not to preach. In each case, they were not acting wisely. Truly trusting in God is knowing He will fulfill His purposes, and that it will not be by asking His followers to sin. (Note: but He will USE His followersโ€™ sin to accomplish His good will, Rom. 8:28).

Our time together ended amicably. The phone call I had today revealed that God used that conversation in Pamโ€™s heart and she has given up preaching. She continues to evangelize and hand out tracts. In other words, God used the proclaiming of His truth in Pamโ€™s life, by the power of the Holy Spirit โ€“despite the lack of nuance I could afford in my speech and relationship we had time to build. Pam was able to receive my words because Pam was humble and my words were true. It really had nothing to do with my kindness or my desire or ability empathize with Pam, although God may have used those things as well.

As you can imagine, I was greatly encouraged by this in the Lord. (Philemon 20)

There are three primary takeaways I want you, the reader, to think about in regards to this story.

First, I did not need to build a relationship with Pam to speak truth into her life. My reliance on the inerrancy, infallibility and sufficiency of Scripture was the only requirement. Now, that is never an excuse to act ungodly. We also trust that as God gives us opportunities to interact with people, He will use the sanctification weโ€™ve received to that point as part of the relationship. So it is possible I actually was kind and compassionate, etc., my point is that those things arenโ€™t the same as the power of Godโ€™s Word to pierce hearts (Acts 4:12).

Secondly, you never know how God is working in someoneโ€™s life when you are not there. We are very โ€œseeingโ€ oriented. Sometimes God does a good work when you are not looking. So donโ€™t lose hope. I didnโ€™t need to be in Pamโ€™s life daily or weekly or actually ever for God to use His Word to effect a wonderful change in her.

Finally, I cannot explain how greatly encouraged I was by this anecdote. I spend my life preaching and teaching, discipling and being discipled, and I can tell you the โ€œapparentโ€ success is often bleak. Even joyful moments are often overshadowed by an โ€œI can never do enoughโ€ attitude. I hear of a person responding to something positively and I can recall dozens of situations that never appeared to improve. I need this kind of encouragement. So did Paul. So do you. And so does someone in your life. Someone you know needs to know how their work for Jesus Christ has had a good result. Someone needs to know you are thinking of them and praying for them.

While writing this post, I got an email from someone I donโ€™t know too well that said, โ€œBrother, Just thinking about you and praying for fruits of your labors. God bless you brother.โ€ I can only imagine there is someone in your life that needs a similar message. It may prevent you from having to deal with a situation such as I have linked to here.


Michael Coughlin is a street evangelist from Ohio. He and his wife, Erin have 5 children. You can find him on Twitter, at his blog,ย or on Sermon Audio.


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