Faith, Parenting

Wayback Wednesday ~ Follow On

Originally published July 29, 2010

Again the next day John was standing with two of his disciples, and he looked at Jesus as He walked, and said, “Behold, the Lamb of God!” The two disciples heard him speak, and they followed Jesus. And Jesus turned and saw them following, and said to them, “What do you seek?” They said to Him, “Rabbi (which translated means Teacher), where are You staying?” He said to them, “Come, and you will see.” So they came and saw where He was staying; and they stayed with Him that day, for it was about the tenth hour. John 1:35-39

When we speak of “following Jesus” today, we mean that we follow in His footsteps figuratively. We keep His teachings. We obey Him. We submit to His leadership.

But when Jesus was physically present on earth, people were literally able to follow Him. Around. As in, walking right behind Him. Maybe even stepping on the backs of His sandals like my children do to me sometimes.

Which got me to thinking. Why do people follow other people around? And who are these people who follow other people around? And why are my children and my dog always following me around? And why does it annoy me when my children and my dog follow me around? (Ok, I haven’t figured that one out yet, but there’s some kind of a sin issue in there somewhere, I’m sure.)

Who?
First of all, you don’t usually see an adult following another adult around unless one of them is a stalker. But there are a some occasions in which it might be appropriate and legal, for example, if the person being followed is a tour guide, or if the person being followed is a seasoned employee training a new hire. Much of the time, literal followers are children. And at my house, the dog.

Why?
Why do people follow people around? Think about it– have you ever followed somebody around? Why did you do it? Do people follow you around? Why do they do it?

People generally follow another person around because:

a.) they are interested in what that person is doing,
or
b.) they want to learn from that person,
or
c.) they have no idea where they’re going and the person they’re following does. 

That’s why people followed Jesus around. They had heard that he spoke and taught as no one ever had before. They had heard about the miracles and healings. They were curious. Were the rumors true? What might they see? Would Jesus do something for them?

For some, that initial interest blossomed into a desire to sit under the tutelage of Jesus. They couldn’t get enough of His teaching, so these first century groupies followed him from speaking engagement to speaking engagement.

Certainly, none of the people who followed Jesus around had a clue as to where they were going, spiritually speaking. Jesus did. He not only knew the way to the kingdom of God, He was the Way. Who better to follow?

So why do my children and my dog follow me around?

Well, my dog follows me around because hope springs eternal in her that I will drop food on the floor, or that one miraculous day, the meal I’m cooking in the kitchen will actually be for her. She’s not interested in learning anything from me and she knows her way around the house just fine.

My children follow me around for the same basic reasons people followed Jesus around. They’re curious. They want to know what I’m doing, and they hope it will be something fun that will involve them. When they’re young, even cooking, sweeping, and folding the laundry seem interesting to them (yeah, my kids don’t get out much) and they want to learn how to do it just like Mom. When we’re in an unfamiliar place, they follow me because they don’t know how to get where we’re going, and I do.

Which makes me think.

How am I walking? Am I walking the way Jesus walked? Do I walk uprightly? Do I walk in integrity?  Do I walk blamelessly?

Do I follow Jesus so closely that by following me around, my children can learn to follow Him too?

Abuse, Homosexuality, Mailbag, Sin

The Mailbag: Perversion-palooza Potpourri

Welcome to another โ€œpotpourriโ€ edition of The Mailbag, where I give short(er) answers to several questions rather than a long answer to one question.

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It’s June, and you know what that means: perversion-palooza [aka “Pride”] month. What does the Bible say about these and other issues of sexual immorality? How should your church be addressing them? What can you say if a loved one lives in this kind of sin or has been victimized by it? Here’s a roundup of Mailbag articles and other resources that may help.


Can you give me a basic overview of what the Bible says about sexuality and sexual immorality?

Basic Training: Homosexuality, Gender Identity, and Other Sexualย Immorality

Christmas Dinner with the Sexual Sinnerย atย A Word Fitly Spoken


Any resources for offering a biblical apologetic against homosexuality?

Movie Tuesday: Audacity


Is it possible to be a “gay Christian”?

The Hole in World Visionโ€™s Gospel

An Apology, A Request for Forgiveness, and Someย Clarifications

Pride, Pronouns & Prodigals at A Word Fitly Spoken


Does God love homosexuals?

God Loves Gays


How can Christians best show homosexuals the love of Christ?

Cancer: A Love Story


Can you give me some general principles and Scriptures for relating to friends and loved ones who live a lifestyle of sexual immorality?

Christmas Dinner with the Sexual Sinnerย atย A Word Fitly Spoken

Pride, Pronouns & Prodigals at A Word Fitly Spoken


How does the legalization of same sex “marriage” impact homosexuals and Christians?

SCOTUS to Rule on Same Sex โ€œMarriageโ€: A Call to Prayer and Godly Response


Should Christians attend a homosexual (or “trans”) “wedding” as a guest?

The Mailbag: Should Christians Attend A Homosexual Wedding?

Pride, Pronouns & Prodigals at A Word Fitly Spoken

Talk Back: Alistair Begg at A Word Fitly Spoken


Should a Christian employee work at a homosexual โ€œweddingโ€?

The Mailbag: Potpourri (Spanking, Women teaching men, Working a homosexual โ€œweddingโ€โ€ฆ) (section 4)


How can Christians navigate Gay Pride Month?

Glad you Asked: Pride, Parenting, Evangelism and Denying Self at A Word Fitly Spoken


A friend or relative wants me to use an opposite sex name and pronouns for him (or her). Is that biblical?

The Mailbag: Whatโ€™s In aย Name?

Pride, Pronouns & Prodigals at A Word Fitly Spoken


I suspect someone has surgically altered her body to appear to be the opposite sex.

The Mailbag: Lady looks like a dude?


Should a man who presents himself as a woman be allowed to attend women’s events at church?

The Mailbag: Guess whoโ€™s coming to (the womenโ€™s ministry)ย dinner?


How should we handle church roles when it comes to medically intersex people?

The Mailbag: Church Roles and Ambiguousย Anatomy


Can you point me to some biblical resources on pornography?

Biblical Resources on Pornography


My husband wants me to watch porn with him to spice up our sex life. Should I?

The Mailbag: Should Christian Couples Watch Pornographyย Together?


I’m including these resources on sexual abuse in this article because the abuse itself is a perversion of biblical sexuality and because the sexual sins addressed above can lead to abuse. If you were victimized by an abuser, you are not guilty of perversion, an act of perversion was committed against you.

What are some practical ways to prevent sexual abuse at my church?

Preventative Measures: 6 Steps SBC Churches Can Take to Prevent Sexual Abuse (Most of this applies to any church)


I know a woman who is a victim of sexual abuse. How can I help her biblically? (If the victim is a man, much of this still applies, but refer him to your pastor so a godly man can help and disciple him.)

From Victimhood to Victory: Biblically Helping Abused Womenย Heal

Band-Aids vs. Chemotherapy: Why Suffering Women are Drawn to False Doctrine and 7 Things We Can do to Help.

4 Ways Christian Advocates for Victims of Abuse Need to Get Biblically Back onย Track


My husband and I are having sexual problems that stem from the fact that I was molested as a child. What should I do?

The Mailbag: Potpourri (Sexual abuse, Feminism, Serpent seed doctrineโ€ฆ) 3rd section


If you have a question about: a Bible passage, an aspect of theology, a current issue in Christianity, or how to biblically handle a family, life, or church situation, comment below (Iโ€™ll hold all questions in queue {unpublished} for a future edition of The Mailbag) or send me an e-mail or private message. If your question is chosen for publication, your anonymity will be protected.

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In the meantime, there’s plenty to explore here in the archives and we’ve got new episodes of A Word Fitly Spoken -our last two before we take our annual summer break- dropping this week and next.

Y’all be good while I’m gone, and I’ll be back soon.โค๏ธ

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Podcast Appearances

Guest Appearance – The Plumb Line Radio Show

If you’re in the vicinity of Des Moines, Omaha/Lincoln, Phoenix, Pittsburgh, San Diego, New York City, Jacksonville, Chicago, or Kansas City, you might have recently heard a familiar name and voice on your local Christian radio station!

A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of appearing as a guest on The Plum Line Radio Show with Jay Rudolph to chat about the topic of prayer. What is prayer, and what does the Bible say about it? Are things like private prayer languages and Sozo prayer biblical? Listen in to these two brief interviews and find out!

The Plumb Line, episode 373- Prayer- Michelle Lesley, part 1
The Plumb Line, episode 374- Prayer- Michelle Lesley, part 2

Click here to find out which radio stations carry The Plumb Line and when. If you don’t live near one of those markets, you can always follow and listen on Spotify.


Articles / resources mentioned in these episodes:

Basic Training: 8 Things You Need to Know About Prayer


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