Easter, Holidays (Other)

Easter with the King: The Story of Nabal, Abigail and David

Originally published April 20, 2014

The whole Bible points us to Jesus. Even the Old Testament. Even passages we’d least suspect, like the story of Nabal, Abigail, and David.

The whole Bible points us to Jesus. Even the Old Testament. Even passages we’d least suspect, like the story of Nabal, Abigail, and David.

In 2014, I led my women’s Sunday School class through a one year chronological study of the Bible. Each Sunday, I taught a lesson from that week’s reading. The lesson below is taken from week 15 of that study, which I taught on Easter Sunday. You can find the entire chronological study at the Bible Studies tab in the blue menu bar at the top of this page.

Read: 1 Samuel 25:2-42

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I Pity the Fool (3)
The name โ€œNabalโ€ means โ€œfool.โ€ As we have seen throughout the Old Testament, names werenโ€™t just random labels. They told something about the personโ€™s character or life, where he was from, who he was related to, etc. Sometimes names were changed to reflect life circumstances: Ben-oni (son of my sorrow) to Benjamin (son of the right hand- Genesis 35:18), Naomi (pleasant) to Mara (bitter- Ruth 1:20), Simon (God has heard) to Peter (rock- Matthew 16:18).

It seems odd, even by Israelโ€™s standards, to name an infant โ€œfool,โ€ but we have no way of knowing whether this was the case or whether he acquired this name later in life after earning it by his behavior.

โ€œAbigailโ€ means โ€œMy father is joy.โ€

An Offer You Canโ€™t Refuse? (4-13, Deuteronomy 22:1-4, 18:7, 21:11, 15:7-8, Leviticus 19:10, 23:22)
This incident hits our Western ears as odd or inappropriate, even presumptuous or akin to extortion, but Middle Eastern hospitality etiquette and neighborliness, not to mention Godโ€™s Law was, and still is, much different from ours in many cases.

Nabal did not ask David to guard his shepherds and flocks. Indeed, he probably didnโ€™t even know David was doing so unless the shepherds told him when they brought the sheep in for shearing. (And since โ€œone cannot speak to himโ€ {17} maybe they didnโ€™t.) David, however, when he met up with the shepherds, took it upon himself, out of his own good will, to look out for them. Maybe he had sympathy for them because he had also been a shepherd.

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David and his men likely put their lives on the line numerous times protecting Nabalโ€™s livelihood. And he didnโ€™t do it with an โ€œI scratch your back; you scratch mineโ€ attitude, thinking he would later demand pay from Nabal. He also didnโ€™t take advantage of the shepherds (such as extorting sheep/goats in exchange for protection) while they were with him. David was obeying the spirit of all those โ€œgood neighbor lawsโ€ we read about (ex: Deuteronomy 22:1-4). The law is not just โ€œdonโ€™t harm your neighbor,โ€ but also, โ€œdo good to your neighbor.โ€

Remember, these shepherds were alone out in the wilderness with the flocks. There was no police force or army to protect them from raiding bands of Philistines. If the Philistines saw a thousand goats and 3000 sheep and wanted them, they just took them and captured or killed the shepherds. No legal redress, no sheep insurance. Nabalโ€™s entire portfolio was at stake. You would think once he found out what David had done โ€“for free and out of the goodness of his heartโ€”Nabal would be extremely grateful. But was he? Nope.

Davidโ€™s men arrived, explained themselves, and asked politely for whatever food Nabal could spare (kind of hard to make groceries when youโ€™re on the run living in caves). They did not demand his best, and they did not demand he provide enough for their entire company of 600 men. They had even come on a feast day when Nabal was celebrating his wealth, should have been in a good mood, and should have had plenty of extra food on hand. And notice this telling little phrase, โ€œthey said all this to Nabal in the name of David, and then they waited.โ€ (9) Now hereโ€™s one way Middle Eastern culture is similar to Southern culture. If someone was standing there telling you about all those nice things he had done for you, how long would it take before you gleefully interrupted him and offered him everything under the sun in thanks? Well, Middle Easterners arenโ€™t as shy about interrupting as we are, and furthermore, they would take it as the highest insult if you didnโ€™t take everything they offered.

Not Nabal, though. First, he pretended not to know who David was. Pretty ridiculous, since Davidโ€™s conquests were well known throughout Israel (18:7, 21:11- even outside Israel), not to mention the fact that he was next in line for the throne. Next, he insulted Davidโ€™s men by accusing them of lying about working for David. Of course, if he had been interested in finding out whether or not that was true, he could have brought his shepherds in and asked them if these were the guys who had protected them.

Davidโ€™s men went back and reported what had happened. Davidโ€™s immediate response was for everyone to โ€œstrap on his sword.โ€ It seems like kind of an extreme response to us, but we have to keep a few things in mind. First, the Law. Nabal was breaking both the letter and the spirit of it. While there was no specific law covering a band of mighty men coming to you and asking for food on a feast day, there were laws about taking care of people who were hungry and poor, such as the gleaning laws (Leviticus 19:10, 23:22).

Deuteronomy 15:7-8 says: โ€œIf among you, one of your brothers should become poor, in any of your towns within your land that the Lord your God is giving you, you shall not harden your heart or shut your hand against your poor brother, but you shall open your hand to him and lend him sufficient for his need, whatever it may be.โ€

When we read through Ruth, we saw Boaz doing a great job of fulfilling this law for Ruth and Naomi. Here, Nabal is showing the exact opposite of Boazโ€™s kindness and generosity.

Second, Nabalโ€™s actions showed disregard and ingratitude for Godโ€™s provision and blessing. God blessed Nabal with wealth and protected that wealth (through David) without Nabal even knowing about it. Do we see any evidence that Nabal was humbled that God should do such a thing for him, or thankfulness to God for what He had provided? No. We see only selfishness, stinginess, and a blatant disregard for God as sovereign provider.

Finally, Davidโ€™s response was likely an answer to Nabalโ€™s accusations. โ€œHe wants to know who David is? He wants to know whether or not my men are lying? Well, letโ€™s go show him the answer to his questions and see if he changes his tune.โ€

The Go-Between (14-31, John 12:14-15)
Abigail was quite a remarkable woman. This was not the first time Nabal had acted this way. He had a long standing history of being harsh and worthless (โ€œson of Belialโ€ is also applied to Satan in 2 Corinthians). And here, Abigail was going behind his back and defying him. This was no small thing for any wife in Israel. But for Abigail, it could have meant a beating or worse when Nabal found out. Itโ€™s possible she was even risking her life. And for what? To save him. Without his knowledge that she was saving him. Without his knowledge that he even needed saving.

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Why in the world would Abigail want to save someone who was probably making her life a living hell? She could have just let David and his men handle Nabal. Certainly he would have gotten what he deserved. But she stepped in because it was the right thing to do. It was right to obey God by providing for David and his men. It was even right to protect her husband from his own foolishness and bringing Davidโ€™s wrath down upon himself. But even more, she did it because she loved God, and maybe even her husband, too.

She sent the gift on ahead (19) to appease Davidโ€™s wrath, then presented herself to him on Nabalโ€™s behalf. Notice that she got down off her donkey (23). Kings rode donkeys. Rich people and people of high standing rode donkeys. She left her wealth and position behind and got as low as she could get, bowing down, humbling herself, and submitting herself to David. For Nabal.

Then Abigail did something even more remarkable. She said (24-25), โ€œOn me alone, my lord, be the guilt. Please let your servant speak in your ears, and hear the words of your servant. Let not my lord regard this worthless fellow, Nabal, for as his name is, so is he.โ€ Sheโ€”a completely innocent party to Nabalโ€™s sin (25)โ€”voluntarily takes on the guilt and consequences of his sin. (Is this starting to sound familiar?) In v. 28, she asked David to โ€œPlease forgive the trespass of your servant.โ€ It wasnโ€™t her trespass, but Nabalโ€™s. She was asking forgiveness for him.

The Kingโ€™s Response (32-35)
David blessed Abigail, not just for her prudence and godliness, but also because she had satisfied his wrath and kept him from exercising it on Nabal. Her gift was sufficient, and David granted her petition to extend forgiveness to Nabal.

Happily Ever After (36-42)
Well, except for Nabal. Abigail had to tell Nabal what she had done. Sheโ€™d been gone for a while and had taken quite a bit of food out of the house. No sense trying to cover it up. Hopefully Nabal would be grateful she saved him from certain death. When she told him, did he repent? Humble himself? The text doesnโ€™t say that he did. It says โ€œhis heart died within him.โ€ Itโ€™s generally believed this means that Nabal had a stroke (especially since it further says that he โ€œbecame as stoneโ€ and lived for ten more days). Did he become enraged at what Abigail had done, and this physical exertion contributed to a stroke? We canโ€™t know for certain. What seems unlikely is that he genuinely repented, because God โ€œstruck Nabal and he died.โ€ As weโ€™ll see later with David, while we usually do suffer the consequences of our sin, God shows mercy and forgiveness to the repentant.

David was thankful he had not taken matters into his own hands and that God had handled the situation. Justice had been served. And for her faithfulness, Abigailโ€”who considered herself the lowliest of servants, only fit to wash the feet of other servantsโ€”ascended to the position of Queen. Back on her donkey where she belonged, exalted out of humility to sit at the right hand of the king.

The Backstage Gospel (Psalm 14:1, Philippians 2:6-8, 9-11)
Often, in stories like this, the characters arenโ€™t just playing themselves, theyโ€™re playing out the parts of the gospel.

Often, in stories like this, the characters arenโ€™t just playing themselves, theyโ€™re playing out the parts of the gospel.

As with Nabal, God blessed His people, Israel, richly with life, family, provisions, and all kinds of other blessings she wasnโ€™t even aware of. The people didnโ€™t ask God to do these things. God, the Good Shepherd, did these things for them out of the goodness of His own heart, the same way David had done for Nabal. But, as with Nabal the fool, โ€œThe fool says in his heart, โ€˜There is no God.โ€™ They are corrupt, they do abominable deeds, there is none who does good.โ€ (Ps. 14) The same way David presented himself to Nabal and told him what he had done for him, God, over and over, reminded Israel of the way He had protected and provided for them. But just as Nabal rejected David, so, Israel rejected God, and rebelled against Him in favor of their own sin and selfishness. And, like David, Godโ€™s wrath was inflamed.

Enter Jesus. Just as Abigail intervened on behalf of Nabal, Jesus intervened on behalf of Israel and all mankind. Just like Abigail, He laid down His life to save us. Before we ever knew Him. Before we ever knew we needed saving. Why? Why would He even want to save us Nabals? He could have let God exercise His wrath on us. We certainly deserve it. But in the same way that Abigail acted in love and in doing what was right, Jesus loved His Father and us enough to fulfill righteousness and to bring God glory by staying His hand of wrath.

Jesus laid down His life to save us. Before we ever knew Him. Before we ever knew we needed saving. Why? Why would He even want to save us Nabals?

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In the same way that Abigail got down off her donkey, leaving behind all prestige and humbling herself to the lowest position possibleโ€”a servant only worthy of washing other servantsโ€™ feetโ€” Jesus โ€œthough he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant [one who washed other servantsโ€™ feet], being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.โ€ (Phil. 2:6-8) And for whom? Us Nabals. โ€œOn me alone, my Lord, be the guilt,โ€ Jesus said, even though, like Abigail, He was completely innocent. He voluntarily took on the guilt and consequences of our sin when He died in our place on the cross, and He did it to win forgiveness for us.

Jesus sent this offering of His life for the atonement of our sin on ahead of Himself to the Father, and Godโ€™s wrath was satisfied. Jesusโ€™ offering was sufficient, and God granted His petition to extend forgiveness to the likes of us. And just as David picked Abigail up from her humility and she ascended to the position of queen, Jesus ascended to sit at the right hand of the King, and โ€œGod has highly exalted him [Jesus] and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.โ€ (Phil. 2:9-11)

This story didnโ€™t have a happy ending for Nabal, because Nabal didnโ€™t repent and submit himself to God. Nabal ended up taking the guilt and consequences for his sin himself (death) instead of gratefully humbling himself and being thankful for the gift of Abigailโ€™s intervention and Davidโ€™s forgiveness. But the rest of us Nabals can have a happy ending. Jesus has paid the price for our sin with His death, burial, and the resurrection we celebrate today. He completely satisfied the wrath of God on our behalf. It is finished. Forgiveness has been purchased with His blood. If we will humble ourselves, repent of our sin, and accept the beautiful gift of forgiveness God is extending to us at the request of His Son, we can be reconciled to God now and live happily in the ever after.

Jesus has paid the price for our sin with His death, burial, and resurrection. He completely satisfied the wrath of God on our behalf. It is finished. Forgiveness has been purchased with His blood.

Faith, Suffering

Wayback Wednesday ~ Facing the Furnace

Originally published July 28, 2010

Nebuchadnezzar responded and said to them, “Is it true, Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego, that you do not serve my gods or worship the golden image that I have set up?

“Now if you are ready…to fall down and worship…very well; But if you do not worship, you will immediately be cast into the midst of a furnace of blazing fire; and what god is there who can deliver you out of my hands?”

Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego replied to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to give you an answer concerning this matter.

“If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the furnace of blazing fire; and He will deliver us out of your hand, O king.

“But even if He does not, let it be known to you, O king, that we are not going to serve your gods or worship the golden image that you have set up.”

Then Nebuchadnezzar was filled with wrath, and his facial expression was altered toward Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego. He answered by giving orders to heat the furnace seven times more than it was usually heated.

Then these men were tied up in their trousers, their coats, their caps and their other clothes, and were cast into the midst of the furnace of blazing fire.

Then Nebuchadnezzar the king was astounded and stood up in haste; he said to his high officials, “Was it not three men we cast bound into the midst of the fire?” They replied to the king, “Certainly, O king.”

He said, “Look! I see four men loosed and walking about in the midst of the fire without harm, and the appearance of the fourth is like a son of the gods!”

Then Nebuchadnezzar came near to the door of the furnace of blazing fire; he responded and said, “Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego, come out, you servants of the Most High God, and come here!” Then Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego came out of the midst of the fire.

The…king’s high officials gathered around and saw in regard to these men that the fire had no effect on the bodies of these men nor was the hair of their head singed, nor were their trousers damaged, nor had the smell of fire even come upon them.

Nebuchadnezzar responded and said, “Blessed be the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego, who has sent His angel and delivered His servants who put their trust in Him, violating the king’s command, and yielded up their bodies so as not to serve or worship any god except their own God.

“Therefore I make a decree that any people, nation or tongue that speaks anything offensive against the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego shall be torn limb from limb and their houses reduced to a rubbish heap, inasmuch as there is no other god who is able to deliver in this way.”

Daniel 3:14-29

What a great story. It’s almost Disney-ish in the telling. Three boys rise from virtual anonymity to high and respected places of power and influence. Next– oh no! –there’s a brief period of drama and suspense. But then, as we knew it would, comes the happy ending. Cut and print. That’s a wrap.

Hang on. Rewind.

If you grew up in church like I did, you probably can’t remember a time when you didn’t know the happy ending to this story. Check that. This wasn’t a story. This was a historical event. It was a real situation that happened to real, flesh and blood people, with real feelings, just like you and me. And just like you and me, when these boys were in the middle of their circumstances, they didn’t know what was going to happen next or how things would turn out in the end.

I think we forget that sometimes. We forget how frightening it must have been for Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego to stand up to this megalomaniacal king and say, “Regardless of the outcome, we’re not going to worship an idol.” They served in Nebuchadnezzar’s court. They had seen what this guy did to people who disobeyed him. Cruel and unusual punishment was his specialty.

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego weren’t out to be heroes. They didn’t know that they would be written about and set an example for Bible-readers for thousands of years to come. Their only concern was personal obedience to God. Whether they lived or died. Whether or not anyone else noticed. They were in it for God, and God alone.

But since they were written about, what can we learn from their example?

Truly following and obeying God means trouble is coming our way.

How’s that for an advertisement for Christianity? Jesus didn’t say, “Follow Me so you can have ‘your best life now’.” He said, if you want to follow Me, you’d better realize from the get-go that you’re going to have to deny yourself and prepare to be crucified daily (Luke 9:23). He said, “Look, the world hates Me. If you follow Me, they’re going to hate you, too.” (John 15:18-20) He said, “In this world, you will have tribulation.” (John 16:33). Following Jesus is not a skip through the park.

Gird up. Now.

Where do you think Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego got the spiritual fortitude to stand against Nebuchadnezzar? These weren’t guys who just attended church, read the Bible, and prayed whenever they happened to feel like it. They didn’t have a lackadaisical attitude towards their walk with God. You know how I know that? Because people like that don’t do great things for God. People like that fold when faced with the furnace.

These guys were firmly rooted in the Word and in prayer. They were serious about obeying God, even when it came down to meal time (Daniel 1:8-15). They had such an awe and reverence for God that they feared His judgment more than the furnace. They were able to stand firm because they were already girded up in the faith.

They had such an awe and reverence for God that they feared His judgment more than the furnace. They were able to stand firm because they were *already* girded up in the faith.

Don’t kick against the trials, embrace them.

God is sovereign. Any circumstance that comes into your life was put there, or allowed there, by Him. Even if it’s a circumstance that is confusing, horrific, or heartbreaking, He is allowing it into your life for His glory and for your good. Maybe He’s revealing something to you about Himself, such as His faithfulness or His power. Maybe He’s disciplining you so that you will repent and obey Him. Maybe He’s teaching you a skill, such as patience, endurance, or persistence in prayer. Whatever it is, what greater blessing could there be than the God of the universe wanting to work in your life?

Just as Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego did not have to be dragged kicking and screaming to the furnace, accept that God has the right to use whatever means He deems necessary to work in your life, and thank Him for even wanting to. (Romans 5:3-5)

Trials allow us to know God in a new way.

It’s one thing to know, “…I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) just because the Bible says so. It’s another thing entirely to know it because you have walked it with your own two feet. Just as Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego would never have come to know the manifest presence of God had it not been for the furnace, we cannot know Him as Provider without experiencing desperate need. We cannot know Him as Healer without facing disease. We cannot know Him as Comforter without experiencing crushing loss. It is not until we are in the furnace with nowhere else to turn but to God that we can experience the fullness of His promises.

It’s one thing to know, “โ€ฆI will never leave you nor forsake you,” just because the Bible says so. It’s another thing entirely to know it because you have walked it with your own two feet.

What about Bob?

Or Joe or Mary or Nebuchadnezzar and all his cronies? What effect does the trial you’re going through, your reaction to it, and God’s handling of it, have on the people around you who need to know Jesus? Maybe it’s not just to grow you, but to bring someone else to salvation.

In verses 2, 3, and 27, Daniel gives a detailed list of the heads of state who witnessed this event. That was no accident. In His mercy, God brought each of these officials to Babylon to show Himself to them. Through Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego’s obedience and subsequent suffering, God’s glory and power, and the fact that He was the only true God, were displayed for all to see. Look at the reaction Nebuchadnezzar had in verses 26-29. In verse 26, this idol builder does a 360 and calls God, “the most high God”. In verses 27 and 29 he says, “Blessed be the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego…there is no other god who is able to deliver in this way.”

Trials aren’t any fun. They can be scary. They can be heart-wrenching. But if God gets glory, how small a sacrifice and how great an honor is our suffering.

Trials aren’t any fun. They can be scary. They can be heart-wrenching. But if God gets glory, how small a sacrifice and how great an honor is our suffering.

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The Word on Wednesdays

Hi ladies! I hope youโ€™ve been enjoying The Word on Wednesday Bible study lessons and resources, and that youโ€™re looking forward to our new study as much as I am.

Iโ€™ve been taking a break on Wednesdays getting ready for our new study. I hope youโ€™ll enjoy it and that it will edify you as you seek to grow in Christ and His Word. (The picture above does not mean we will be studying James. :0)

Unless Providentially hindered, I hope to announce the new study in the next few weeks. Stay tuned, and keep an eye on the blog on Wednesdays.

In the meantime, I’ll be posting some articles from the archives that I think youโ€™ll find helpful as we make our way toward our next study. Here is this weekโ€™s article:

Wednesday’s Word

Wednesday is Bible study day here on the blog. In my Wednesday’s Word Bible study series youโ€™ll find miscellaneous, one lesson Bible studies from each book of the Bible. One chapter of Scripture followed by study questions. This sampler series demonstrates that thereโ€™s nothing to be afraid of when approaching those โ€œlesser knownโ€ books and that every book of the Bible is valuable and worth studying.

Wednesday’s Word ~ Psalm 139

Oย Lord, you haveย searched me and known me!
2ย Youย know when I sit down and when I rise up;
ย ย ย ย youย discern my thoughts from afar.
3ย You search out my path and my lying down
ย ย ย ย and are acquainted with all my ways.
4ย Even before a word is on my tongue,
ย ย ย ย behold, Oย Lord,ย you know it altogether… Continue reading…

Holidays (Other), Old Testament, Parenting

Throwback Thursday ~ Bad Dad David?

Originally published June 16, 2019

I recently finished reading through the life of David during my quiet time. When we think of David, the first thing to jump to mind is probably โ€œand Goliathโ€ or โ€œand Bathshebaโ€ or maybe that he was a king or a psalmist. But have you ever thought of David and the first thing to come to mind was โ€œlousy fatherโ€? I havenโ€™t. And the Bible doesnโ€™t explicitly tell us that he was a bad dad. And, letโ€™s face it, even the most godly parents in the world can have a kid or two who turn out to be prodigals. But if you look at how some of Davidโ€™s children turned out, you have to at least wonder about his parenting skills.

First youโ€™ve got Amnon โ€“ as disgusting a specimen of a human being as ever walked the planet. He makes himself physically ill lusting day after day for his half sisterTamar. Thatโ€™s a lot of lust. But at least โ€“ at least โ€“ he keeps it to himself. For a while, that is.

Amnonโ€™s got an equally disgusting cousin, Jonadab โ€“ who, instead of smacking him senseless when Amnon shamelessly confesses his dastardly daydreams โ€“ devises a scheme to help Amnon indulge his foul and festering flesh by tricking David into making Tamar available to him. David sends Tamar to Amnonโ€™s house, and Tamar pleads with him not to force himself on her.

(While Tamar is pleading with her pustule of a brother, she says something interesting: โ€œPlease speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from you.โ€ Now, arguably, itโ€™s likely she was just saying whatever she could think of in the moment to get away from Amnon and didnโ€™t really believe David would allow Amnon to marry her. But if she did believe that to be true, that definitely says something about David. Because, by that time in Israelโ€™s history, intermarriage between two people who shared a parent was big-time illegal with severe consequences for the offenders. And David and everybody else in the kingdom knew that. Did Davidโ€™s children think he would break the law for them and excuse them from punishment? And for such a nauseating reason?)

But Amnon ignores Tamarโ€™s heartbreaking pleas and forcibly rapes her. He rapes his sister. David finds out what happened and is understandably angry. But does he follow the law and have Amnon executed? Nope. (So we at least have our answer to the question of whether or not David would break the law for his children.) If David did anything about the situation, the Bible doesnโ€™t record it.

Fast forward two whole years. David has still not made his rapist son face the music, so Absalom, Tamarโ€™s full brother, metes out his own brand of justice, putting Amnon to death.

Fast forward a few more years and Absalom thinks, โ€œI believe Iโ€™d make a better king than dear old Dad.โ€ So he sets about manipulating and stealing the hearts of his countrymen away from David and stages a bloodless coup. David ends up having to flee for his life from his own son. Meanwhile, Absalom moves into the palace, sets up a love nest on the roof where everybody can see, and sleeps with Davidโ€™s concubines. Then, Absalom gathers up an army to hunt David โ€“ his father โ€“ down in order to kill him and secure his throne.

Davidโ€™s men fight valiantly for him, risking their own lives. Joab, the commander of Davidโ€™s army โ€“ perhaps considering Davidโ€™s command to โ€œdeal gentlyโ€ with Absalom as ludicrous after all Absalom has done โ€“ seizes an opportune moment, and kills Absalom. David flips out in grief, so much so that Joab has to rebuke him: all these men risked their lives to save you, David, and youโ€™re crying and moaning over this wretch who was trying to kill you! Snap out of it or theyโ€™re going to turn on you! Fortunately, David has the sense to listen to him.

After some more wars, some famine, and a โ€œsin-sus,โ€ Adonijah decides he can pull off the coup his brother Absalom so spectacularly failed at. David is old and sickly, and it should be easy for Adonijah to make a grab for the throne. And in the description of Adonijah, hereโ€™s what was said that initially got me thinking David wasnโ€™t Dad of the year:

His [Adonijahโ€™s] father [David] had never at any time displeased him [Adonijah] by asking, โ€œWhy have you done thus and so?โ€ 

Are you picking up what the author of 1 Kings is laying down? David was an indulgent father. He had never at any time questioned his sonโ€™s actions or intervened in a way that upset him. He let Adonijah run wild and do what he wanted to do. And the way Amnon and Absalom acted, itโ€™s reasonable to surmise that David raised them the same way, along with all the rest of his children. Itโ€™s a miracle Solomon turned out as well as he did (at least until his wives drew him away from the Lord into idol worship). Reading the first nine chapters of Proverbs, I canโ€™t help but wonder if Solomon observed Davidโ€™s parenting and was determined not to follow his poor example. Listen to my instructions, son. Get wisdom. Donโ€™t be a fool.

Sometimes Bible characters set a great example for us. David, a man after Godโ€™s own heart, set many. But sometimes God lets us see their poor and sinful behavior so we can learn not to follow their example. Moms and Dads, letโ€™s make sure we are men and women after Godโ€™s own heart when it comes to parenting our kids.

Happy Fatherโ€™s Day, yโ€™all.

Podcast Appearances

No Trash, Just Truth Podcast Guest Appearance

I recently had the pleasure of chatting with Rose Spiller and Christine Paxon of Proverbs 9:10 Ministries on their delightfully named No Trash, Just Truth podcast – “taking out the trash of false teaching and replacing it with biblical truth”.

Listen in (or watch and listen above) as we chat about the Old Testament, Andy Stanley, Bible study, evangelism, a balanced view of the role of women, and more!

Check out the Proverbs 9:10 website, and find all their social media links so you can give them a follow. Also, be sure to subscribe to the Proverbs 9:10 YouTube channel so you’ll never miss an episode of No Trash, Just Truth, or add it to your queue on your favorite podcast platform.

Articles / resources mentioned or touched on in the episode:

A Word Fitly Spoken Podcast

Searhing for a new church? (always in the blue menu bar at the top of the blog)

Andy Stanley

6 Reasons You Need to Stay Hitched to the Old Testament

Ezekiel Bible Study

The Sermon on the Mount Bible Study

Sisters Are Part of the Family of God, Too!


Got a podcast of your own or have a podcasting friend who needs a guest? Need a speaker for a womenโ€™s conference or church event? Click the โ€œSpeaking Engagementsโ€ tab in the blue menu bar at the top of this page, drop me an e-mail, and letโ€™s chat!