Discernment, Mailbag

The Mailbag: Potpourri (Book rec on being a godly sister?… Pants war with parents… Why isn’t ___ on the false teacher list?)

Welcome to another โ€œpotpourriโ€ edition of The Mailbag, where I give short(er) answers to several questions rather than a long answer to one question.

I like to take the opportunity in these potpourri editions to let new readers know about my comments/e-mail/messages policy. Iโ€™m not able to respond individually to most e-mails and messages, so here are some helpful hints for getting your questions answered more quickly. Remember, the search bar (at the very bottom of each page) can be a helpful tool!

Or maybe I answered your question already? Check out my article The Mailbag: Top 10 FAQs to see if your question has been answered and to get some helpful resources.


My oldest daughter is turning 12 this week, and I see a lot of heart issues in her that I would like to help her with. She is a triplet, and also has three younger siblings, and I think she feels like she doesn’t get as much attention from me because of the neediness of the other children, which has turned into bitterness and disrespectful attitudes in her. Is there a book that you know of that I could take her through that would help us both with these things? Really, anything directed at her age discussing how to be a godly older sister. I want to be a good mom for her, raising her to be a kind and loving older sister, but I feel like I am failing.

Being a mom is pretty challenging, and we all have moments and seasons when we feel like we’re failing. Ask the best, most godly mom you know, and I’m sure she’ll agree. Sometimes, it’s because we have failed, which means we need to repent – to God and to our children – and obey Him. But often, we take those feelings of failure upon ourselves when we’re truly doing our best, and/or when the situation is unavoidable or isn’t our fault.

Let me give you a few resources that may help…

First, you’ll want to get your own heart and mind in order – according to Scripture – about your feelings of failure. Check out my article: Guilt and Shame- Burden or Blessing?

Next, I’d like to suggest you read my article You Donโ€™t Need *A* Book, You Need *THE* Book. Christians are readers, and that’s a good thing, but a book written by another human being isn’t always the best thing. Find out why, and what’s better. You might also enjoy my article Avoiding the Creepers: Six Ways to Raise a Biblically Strong Woman.

Your daughter is the perfect age for the two of you to study the Bible together. If she’s not yet a Believer, you’ll want to explain the gospel to her. If she is a Believer, study through a book of the Bible together. The Bible is a book, it’s directed at her age, and it addresses all of the things you’ve mentioned both textually and transformatively. (If I may be a little blunt: your daughter needs godly parenting from the best people for the job – you and your husband – and either salvation or sanctification by the Holy Spirit more than she needs to read a book written by someone else.) If you’d like, the two of you might also enjoy working through my Bible study Imperishable Beauty: A Study of Biblical Womanhood. Studying Scripture together will also help address the issue of her feeling like she’s not getting enough attention from you.

And don’t forget to pray for your daughter on your own, with your husband, and with her. Prayer is also transformative. It will help you, your husband, and your daughter get on the same page with God.

Finally, let your church be the resource for you that God wants it to be. This is a textbook Titus 2:3-5 situation. Find a godly older woman in your church or in your family, and ask for her help and guidance. If you don’t know anyone like that, set up an appointment with your pastor for counsel and ask him to point you in the direction of a godly older woman who can disciple you through this.

Although doctrinally sound books can sometimes be helpful, the means and methods God has prescribed in Scripture – the Word, prayer, and the church – should always be our “Plan A”.


I’m 19 years of age and I’m currently at war with my parents because I told them I wanted to start wearing pants. They believe my salvation is not real because I’m going against Deuteronomy 22:5…..And it has made me so confused about my stand with God. Am I really sinning against God or am I misunderstanding something? 

I think there’s definitely some misunderstanding and some sin going on here, but maybe not like you might be thinking. Let’s sort it out according to Scripture.

In and of itself, it is not a sin for a Christian woman to wear modest women’s pants. If your parents genuinely think you’re not saved solely because you want to wear modest women’s pants, then they are misunderstanding Deuteronomy 22:5 (and possibly the New Testament concept of Christians being under the covenant of grace rather than the Mosaic covenant). I’ve explained all of this in detail in my article The Mailbag: May Christian Women Wear Pants?.

However there are sins being committed in this situation that you may not have considered. If you’re “at war” with your parents about this or any other issue of adiaphora/Christian liberty, you’re probably committing the sins of pride, dishonoring/disobeying your parents, failing to live at peace with them so far as you’re able, and failing to bear with their weakness in this area. (Your parents may also be committing some of these sins as well as provoking you to anger, but you can only control whether or not you’re sinning, and how you react to their sins.) I would encourage you to study the Scriptures I’ve linked here, ask God to humble you and help you understand whether or not you’ve sinned in any of these areas, and, if you have, repent – to God and to your parents.

Now, there is one more dynamic at play here: It doesn’t sound like you’re married, so are you still living under your parents’ roof and/or financial support (e.g. You live in a dorm or apartment they’re paying for, they’re paying for your education, etc.) or are you living on your own and supporting yourself? Those are two different kettles of fish.

Your parents have the right to make the rules for their house, and they have the right to decide what they will and won’t support financially, even if those rules and conditions seem wrong, ridiculous, or unfair to you. At nineteen, you are an adult, and you have the right to decide whether you want to live under those rules in their house, and whether you want to abide by the conditions under which they will financially support you. It’s just a question of which is more important to you at this point in your life – housing and financial support or wearing pants. If you want to live at their house and/or receive their money, you need to humble yourself and abide by their rules without complaining. If you want to wear pants, you need to move out and pay your own way.

A few final thoughts:

  • If you’re still living at home or receiving financial support from your parents, you can lovingly and humbly ask if they might be open to the compromise of you wearing split skirts or palazzo pants / skirts. Go into this conversation prepared to graciously accept an answer of “no”.
  • Give 1 Peter 3:1-6 a good study. This passage is not about the parent-child relationship, but about Christian wives softening their unsaved husbands’ hearts to the gospel by their godly, submissive behavior. Are there any principles you can glean from this passage that can be applied to your relationship with your parents as you submit to their authority in their home and under their financial support?
  • When you do move out and support yourself, you’re free to wear modest women’s pants whenever you like, but Scripture doesn’t allow us to exercise our Christian liberties in ways that unnecessarily offend others. In other words, when you go visit your parents, put on a skirt.

I am curious as to why Kenneth Copeland and Rhema Bible College [founded by Kenneth Hagin] are NOT on your list of false teachers. Thank you for your ministry but I believe these are important ones to highlight as well.

I agree, the two Kenneths are/were rank heretics, and Rhema “Bible” College knows nothing of the Bible. No one should have anything to do with any of them.

Here’s why they (and a number of other blatant heretics) are not listed at my Popular False Teachers & Unbiblical Trends tab (in the blue menu bar at the top of this page). Let’s start with an excerpt from that page that perhaps you didn’t see:

Please understand that this is not a comprehensive list of every false teacher in existence (there are thousands of them, so that would be impossible)… I provide information here largely in answer to questions from my readers. In other words, if you donโ€™t see it, itโ€™s either because I havenโ€™t been asked about it, or I havenโ€™t had time to get to it yet. The names you see are simply some of the most well-known teachers my readers have inquired about.

Generally speaking, my audience consists mostly of Christian women in passable to vibrantly doctrinally sound churches. They’re not asking me if the Kenneths are false teachers; they can watch or listen to five minutes of either of those guys and know.

Women who are so undiscerning that they’re following these guys are almost certainly not saved (and aren’t following me). What they need is to repent and believe the gospel, or they’re neither going to understand why, nor believe that the Kenneths are heretics, and, like the pigs and dogs they are, spiritually speaking, they’re going to turn and attack me for trying to convince them

There are tens of thousands of false teachers out there. I am one person with a husband, family, church responsibilities, friends, a podcast, speaking engagements, and other topics I have to blog about. I have to spend my time, not on the obvious false teachers, but on the more subtle ones my readers are actually asking about.

I have also attempted to help out readers who don’t find the false teacher they’re looking for on the list (again, from my Popular False Teachers & Unbiblical Trends page):

Donโ€™t see the name of the teacher youโ€™re looking for in the lists below? Check out my article Is She a False Teacher? 7 Steps to Figuring It Out on Your Own.

In this article, you’ll not only learn how to research teachers for yourself (a skill every Christian should develop), you’ll also find a list of trustworthy discernment ministries who may have the information you’re looking for.


If you have a question about: a Bible passage, an aspect of theology, a current issue in Christianity, or how to biblically handle a family, life, or church situation, comment below (Iโ€™ll hold all questions in queue {unpublished} for a future edition of The Mailbag) or send me an e-mail or private message. If your question is chosen for publication, your anonymity will be protected.

Discernment

TGCW24- Mark and Avoid


Until such time as I can pull together an article proper on The Gospel Coalition (TGC), please allow the article below on TGCW24 and the following two resources to serve as evidence of the reasons TGC is no longer doctrinally sound and should be marked and avoided as a whole: TGC is woke, progressive, egalitarian, soft on perversion, has a social justice bent, and mishandles Scripture.

Why It’s Time to Say Goodbye to The Gospel Coalition at Clear Truth Media

Unmasking False Teaching in Womenโ€™s Ministries with Michelle Lesley on the Contending for the Word podcast


Photo courtesy of TGCW24- edited

Ladies, The Gospel Coalition’s 2024 Women’s Conference (TGCW24) is coming up in about two weeks. I would encourage you not to attend the conference itself or any local simulcast of it, and to give any of your friends who are considering attending a heads up about the biblical issues with it.

About 15-20 years ago, TGC was a great, doctrinally sound resource, but it’s been on a downhill trajectory of wokeness, egalitarianism, softening toward perversion, and Scripture mangling ever since. One of TGC’s favorite article templates in recent years seems to be “Finding Jesus/the Gospel in [insert current popular secular movie here],” a gross mรฉlange of worldliness and Scripture twisting. They have platformed Thabiti Anyabwile, who, the last time I read anything he wrote, had moved beyond woke to flat out racist. They’ve platformed Jackie Hill Perry (and others like her), who is not only woke, but preaches to men. And these are just a few small examples.

Over the last several years, TGCW has typically platformed this same type (woke and egalitarian) of speaker, and this year is no exception. This year’s line up also includes two Side B speakers who both identify as “Same Sex Attracted (SSA) Christians.

You can find the list of speakers for TGCW24 here (until they’re removed from the TGCW site) and in the slideshow below:

I am not familiar with all of them, but let me provide you with some brief info on the ones I am familiar with and you’ll see why this is an event (and an organization) to avoid.

[Items in brackets are quoted from speaker bios at the TGCW24 website linked above. Just click on the speaker’s picture to verify.]

Jen Wilkin

Vanessa Hawkins: [serves as diversity advisor] Click the X post below (or the “link” underneath the post) and scroll down to see several video excerpts of Vanessa’s unbiblical teaching at TGCW24.

link / screenshot

David Platt

Alicia Akins: lots about race/diversity on her blog

Kristie Anyabwile: [She joyfully supports her husband…Thabiti]

Tina Boesch: [She works at LifeWay and manages the womenโ€™s Bible Study publishing team.] LifeWay’s prototypical women’s Bible study author preaches to men, yokes with false teachers, and mishandles Scripture. You’ll notice several of the authors Tina publishes are listed either in this article, at my Popular False Teachers tab, or both.

Missie Branch: [Missie serves on the SBCโ€™s Racial Reconciliation Steering Committee and as chair of the board of trustees at Lifeway Christian Resources.] As chair of trustees, Missie bears much responsibility for the false teachers’ materials LifeWay carries. Missie also spoke/participated in events at the 2021 and 2022 Southern Baptist Convention, always in the company of other progressives.

Rachel Gilson: [serves on the leadership team of theological development and culture with Cru] Describes herself as “same sex attracted”.

Mary Wilson Hannah: [teaches Old Testament at Memphis City Seminary. Mary enjoys teaching and training others to teach the Scriptures,]

Rebecca McLaughlin: Calls herself a “Same Sex Attracted Christian” (She’s also one of LifeWay Women’s featured speakers/authors, by the way.)

Raechel Myers

Ann Voskamp

Amanda Bible Williams

Elizabeth Woodson: Preaches to men (see videos). “We also seek to elevate the voices of men and women of color so that our understanding of the way of Jesus reflects the ethnic and cultural diversity of the kingdom of God.” (source)

Ladies, when you sit under someone’s teaching – whether it’s your pastor, Sunday School teacher, a conference speaker, or even a blogger or podcaster – you want to be sure that person is as doctrinally sound as possible. Women who defy Scripture by preaching to men, who embrace worldly, unbiblical paradigms regarding ethnicity, who identify themselves by ungodly, disordered lusts, and who twist Scripture to justify all these things and more are not women you should trust to teach you the truth of God’s Word. I urge you, stay away from TGC and TGCW.


If you’d like find out more about any of these or the other speakers on your own, may I suggest my article Is She a False Teacher? 7 Steps to Figuring it Out on Your Own for some research tips.


And if you’re looking for a doctrinally sound alternative to TGCW24, IF:Gathering, and all of LifeWay’s women’s conferences, may I recommend…

Shepherds’ Wives Conference (open to all women)

Any conference Susan Heck is headlining.

Answers for Women 2025– (Update: Now that this conference is over, you can access the teaching sessions here if you have a subscription -or a free trial subscription- to Answers TV. I am recommending only the 2025 Answers for Women conference, Resolute.)

G3 Women’s Expository Teaching Workshop (More of a weekend class than a conference, but still a great alternative.)

Any conference I’m speaking at. I promise I’m not trying to promote myself, it’s just that I know firsthand that these conferences will be doctrinally sound because I’m the one teaching them. :0) Plus, you can schedule one at your church on your timetable! Click here and scroll all the way down to my calendar of events.

Discernment, False Teachers, Mailbag

The Mailbag: Gather25

Does anyone know what Gather25 is about? Is it similar to IF:Gathering?

This past weekend was IF:Gathering 2024. I shared my article about it on social media and one of my followers asked this question. I’m glad she did so I could give you a heads up and so you can have a whole year to warn your church and your friends away from it.

According to its website, Gather25 is a 25 hour global simulcast of “prayer, worship, repentance, and commissioning” (i.e. sending people out under the auspices of the Great Commission, ostensibly, to share the gospel) which will take place in March 2025.

On their FAQ page it says:

“Gather25 is being organized and led by an alliance of Christian organizations: IF:Gathering, YouVersion, illumiNations, Right Now Media, and many more international ministries and churches. The original vision for Gather25 was cast by Jennie Allen.”

Jennie Allen is a false teacher and founder of IF:Gathering, an annual conference for evangelical women (and, no doubt, some men) which routinely platforms false teachers, women pastors, and women who preach to men.

YouVersion is hosted by Craig Groeschel’s LifeChurch.TV. He is a false teacher and platforms many other false teachers and women who preach to men.

The majority of the resources RightNow Media carries are from false teachers. For example, their home page – the “face” they present to the public – currently features Tony Evans, Jennie Allen, Bianca Olthoff, Francis Chan, and First Baptist Orlando.

illumiNations seems to be a Bible translation and distribution organization, which may be just fine, but I’m concerned that all of the evangelical celebrities they currently and proudly list on their home page as supporting their organization (Elevation Worship, Lecrae, Sadie Huff, Passion, IF:Gathering, MVMNT Conference, and Chris Tomlin) are false/woke teachers, or conferences and individuals that platform false/woke teachers. 

And these are just the four organizations mentioned by name on the FAQ page. There are many more sponsors, and the ones I’m familiar with are all doctrinally unsound and/or run by false teachers. This thing is absolutely saturated with false teachers.

This event is going to sucker in a lot of undiscerning pastors, because, “What could possibly be wrong with prayer, worship, repentance, and commissioning people to share the gospel? We can just set aside the ‘secondary issue’ differences we have with these people and join them.”. But Scripture forbids us from having anything to do with false teachers. And if your pastor invites these false teachers into your church via simulcast, he is disqualified from the ministry. Titus 1:9 is part of the biblical qualifications for pastors and elders:

He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.

Titus 1:9

Furthermore, what sort of false gospel might these false teachers be “commissioning” people to spread? What sort of unbiblical prayer and worship practices will they lead participants in? What is the definition of “repentance” these false teachers hold to? Will they lead participants to “repent” of things like “whiteness,” refusing to baptize practicing homosexuals, oppressing women by not allowing them to be pastors, and such?

If you think your pastor might be the type to have your church participate in this event, I would recommend you start praying now, start preparing now, and prayerfully consider whether or not you should warn him about Gather25 now so that he has plenty of time to be obedient to the Titus 1:9 mandate the Lord has given him.

If not, and he throws open the doors of your church to these false teachers, he’s a hireling, not a shepherd, and it’s time to start searching for a new church.


If you have a question about: a Bible passage, an aspect of theology, a current issue in Christianity, or how to biblically handle a family, life, or church situation, comment below (Iโ€™ll hold all questions in queue {unpublished} for a future edition of The Mailbag) or send me an e-mail or private message. If your question is chosen for publication, your anonymity will be protected.

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Alistair Begg

If you are considering commenting or sending me an e-mail objecting to the fact that I warn against certain teachers, please click here and read this article first. Your objection is most likely answered here. I won’t be publishing comments or answering emails that are answered by this article.


This article is kept continuously updated as needed.

I get lots of questions about particular authors, pastors, and Bible teachers, and whether or not I recommend them. Some of the best known can be found above at my Popular False Teachers tab. The teacher below is someone I’ve been asked about recently, so I’ve done a quick check (this is brief research, not exhaustive) on him.

Generally speaking, in order for me to recommend a teacher, speaker, or author, he or she has to meet three criteria:

a) A female teacher cannot currently and unrepentantly preach to or teach men in violation of 1 Timothy 2:12. A male teacher or pastor cannot allow women to carry out this violation of Scripture in his ministry. The pastor or teacher cannot currently and unrepentantly be living in any other sin (for example, cohabiting with her boyfriend or living as a homosexual).

b) The pastor or teacher cannot currently and unrepentantly be partnering with or frequently appearing with false teachers. This is a violation of Scripture.

c) The pastor or teacher cannot currently and unrepentantly be teaching false doctrine.

I am not very familiar with most of the teachers I’m asked about (there are so many out there!) and have not had the opportunity to examine their writings or hear them speak, so most of the “quick checking” I do involves items a and b (although in order to partner with false teachers (b) it is reasonable to assume their doctrine is acceptable to the false teacher and that they are not teaching anything that would conflict with the false teacher’s doctrine). Partnering with false teachers and women preaching to men are each sufficient biblical reasons not to follow a pastor, teacher, or author, or use his/her materials.

Just to be clear, “not recommended” is a spectrum. On one end of this spectrum are people like Nancy Leigh DeMoss Wolgemuth and Kay Arthur. These are people I would not label as false teachers because their doctrine is generally sound, but because of some red flags I’m seeing with them, you won’t find me proactively endorsing them or suggesting them as a good resource, either. There are better people you could be listening to. On the other end of the spectrum are people like Joyce Meyer and Rachel Held Evans- complete heretics whose teachings, if believed, might lead you to an eternity in Hell. Most of the teachers I review fall somewhere in the middle of this spectrum (leaning toward the latter).

If you’d like to check out some pastors and teachers I heartily recommend, click the Recommended Bible Teachers tab at the top of this page.


photo courtesy of Truth For Life on Facebook

Alistair Begg has been in pastoral ministry since 1975. Following graduation from The London School of Theology, he served eight years in Scotland at both Charlotte Chapel in Edinburgh and Hamilton Baptist Church. In 1983, he became the senior pastor at Parkside Church near Cleveland, Ohio. He has written several books and is heard daily and weekly on the radio program, Truth For Life.”

Alistair Begg has a long and solid history as a doctrinally sound pastor and Bible teacher. Until a few years ago, he was one of the featured teachers at my Recommended Bible Teachers page. I was pleased and happy to recommend him to my followers as a trustworthy teacher of Scripture.

Unfortunately, in mid- to late 2022, one of my followers made me aware of a 2019 sermon Begg had preached in which he endorsed the idea of a woman preaching or teaching the Sunday morning message in church (in other words, preaching/teaching to men) as long as she has been invited and given permission to do so by the pastor and elders. Begg has invited and permitted at least one woman to do this at his own church. This is unbiblical.

It was the second (see below) significant red flag with Begg that I had become aware of, and I was disappointed to have to remove him from my list of recommended teachers. But, having removed other teachers for similar things, I felt that in order to be fair and consistent about who I recommend, it had to be done.

Listen as Begg explains in his own words in this sermon (starting around 30:12) on 1 Timothy 2:9-15b. (I would encourage you to listen to the whole sermon โ€“ in which he says many good things โ€“ for context.)

Christian Women (2) โ€“ Alistair Begg | September 16, 2019

Transcript of relevant portion, beginning at 30:50:

“…One of the chestnuts that always comes up says, “Well you did that thing on 1 Timothy 2 and then you had Helen Roseveare here come to the church. Nananananana. And she spoke on a Sunday morning, and she’s not allowed to speak on Sunday mornings because of first Timothy.”

Yes, she’s allowed to speak on Sunday mornings if the elders determined that we’d like her to. She’s not going to speak as the pastor and the teacher. She is not going to speak in a position of rule and authority, but she has something to say and we’d like to hear it.

There are women who have unique abilities in relationship to, for example, dealing with bereavement. And if that woman has something to share with a fellowship in the context of the Lord’s Day worship then she can come and share it providing it does not negate all that we have said.

In other words, loved ones, we can’t take a principle and make a law out of it. And legalists always make laws out of principles.

Again, this is unbiblical. When God says no – especially in a pastoral epistle like 1 Timothy, instructing pastors about how to run God’s church – no pastor has the right to say yes. Pastors have no right to give anyone permission to sin. Alistair Begg’s personal opinion that a woman who speaks in his church is not speaking “as the pastor and the teacher” or “in a position of rule and authority” is not the deciding factor here. God has commanded pastors that women are not to pastor, preach, teach the Scriptures to men, or exercise authority over men in the gathering of the Body. And when God tells us not to do something and we do it anyway because “we’d like her to” or “we’d like to hear it,” that is sin.

I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

1 Timothy 2:12

Furthermore, it is not “legalistic” (as Begg unbiblically judged those who apparently took him to task at the time) to boldly declare that Christians must obey any rightly handled, in context command of Scripture. Begg can call 1 Timothy 2:12 a law, a principle, or whatever he wants, it doesn’t change the fact that God said, “Don’t do it,” and Begg said, “I want to, so I’m going to.”.

Several questions have arisen about Helen Roseveare: whether or not she was a missionary, the content of what she said at Begg’s church, and the possibility that she may have been giving a personal testimony.

None of that matters as it pertains to the issue at hand. The red flag is what Begg said about it in his sermon, which I’ve just addressed.


Prior to my follower making me aware of the incident above, the first red flag I was (already) aware of also happened in 2019, just a couple of months after the incident above. Alistair Begg announced that he would be speaking at Baylor Universityโ€™s National Preaching Conference, sharing the stage with Beth Moore (also Tony Evans and others), much to the chagrin of and numerous protests from his followers. In response to a follower who expressed concern, a statement1 from Beggโ€™s ministry indicated that he accepted the invitation to speak without knowing who any of the other speakers were. Rather than going to the organizers and explaining that he could not share the stage with:

  • false teachers (Tony Evans and Beth Moore),
  • a woman who preaches to men (Beth Moore),
  • a woman “pastor” (Mary Hulst),

and that he could not speak at a conference at which pastors and future pastors -men- were being instructed in pastoring by two women – sanctioned by the seminary and voluntarily attended by these men – Begg kept the speaking engagement.

I did not remove Begg from my recommends at the time of the Baylor incident because I was hoping it was a one time goof that would teach him to use greater wisdom and discernment in the future. We all do dumb things from time to time, and well known pastors are no exception.

The Baylor incident following so quickly on the heels of the “women preaching incident” (above), was troublesome. And Beggโ€™s statements in the women preaching incident are not a one time lapse in judgment. They are the well thought out, planned, and implemented policy of the church he pastors.

Once might be an “oopsie”. Twice was the beginning of a pattern of Begg doing or saying unbiblical things and then either doubling down, or lashing out, or both at those who tried to biblically correct him.


In this September 2023 episode of Truth for Life entitled The Christian Manifesto (an interview with Begg about his recently released book by the same title), he explains how a grandmother wrote to him asking for counsel about whether or not to attend her grandsonโ€™s โ€œweddingโ€ to a trans-gender person. With seemingly no qualms whatsoever, he advised her that, as long as her grandson knew she didnโ€™t approve, she should not only attend the wedding but take a gift as well. In Beggโ€™s reasoning, refusing to attend the โ€œweddingโ€ would just reinforce the grandsonโ€™s opinion that Christians are mean, unloving, etc. Ironically, he then immediately quoted James 3:1.

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.

James 3:1

โ€˜The Christian Manifestoโ€™ Interview | September 17, 2023

Transcript of relevant portion, beginning at 28:45:

โ€œโ€ฆwe field questions all the time that go along the lines of my grandson is about to be married to a transgender person and I donโ€™t know what to do about this, and Iโ€™m calling to ask you to tell me what to do. Which is a huge responsibility.

And in a conversation like that just a few days ago โ€“ and people may not like this answer โ€“ but I asked I asked the grandmother, โ€œDoes your grandson understand your belief in Jesus?โ€

โ€œYes.โ€

โ€œDoes your grandson understand that your belief in Jesus makes it such that you canโ€™t countenance in any affirming way the choices that he has made in life?โ€

โ€œYes.โ€

I said, โ€œWell then, okay, as long as he knows that then I suggest that you do go to the ceremony, and I suggest that you buy them a gift.โ€

โ€œOh!โ€ she said. She was caught off guard. I said, โ€œWell hereโ€™s the thing, your love for them may catch them off guard. But your absence will simply reinforce the fact that they said these people are what I always thought: judgmental, critical, unprepared to countenance anything.โ€

And it is a fine line isnโ€™t it? It really is, and people need to work out their own salvation with fear and trembling. But I think weโ€™re going to take that risk, weโ€™re going to have to take that risk a lot more if we want to build bridges into the hearts and lives of those who donโ€™t understand Jesus and and donโ€™t understand that he is a king.

This is pastoral malpractice, and is the very reason God included James 3:1 in His Word. Our personal opinions about someoneโ€™s anticipated reaction is not what governs our actions as Christians โ€“ Scripture does. We are to obey Scripture regardless of what we think the outcome will be. And in this case Scripture tells us:

  • Marriage is between one man and one woman Genesis 2:20-24
  • Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4
  • Weโ€™re not to be ashamed of the gospel โ€“ a major component of which is โ€œthe wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of menโ€ (Romans 1:16-18) โ€“ rather, weโ€™re to be willing to shed our own blood for obedience to Scripture (Hebrews 12:4). Compromising with sin is one form of being ashamed of the gospel.
  • Weโ€™re to abstain from even the appearance of evil. (1 Thessalonians 5:22)
  • Jesus did not come to bring peace between pagans and Christians, but a sword, and anyone who puts loyalty to family ahead of loyalty to Jesus and His Word is not worthy of Him: I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a personโ€™s enemies will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. Matthew 10:34-39
  • If even pagans arenโ€™t to give approval to sin, how much less are Christians to give approval to sin? Romans 1:32
  • are not those who eat the sacrifices participants in the altar?โ€ฆ I do not want you to be participants with demons. You cannot drink the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons. You cannot partake of the table of the Lord and the table of demons. 1 Corinthians 10:18-21
  • Do notโ€ฆtake part in the sins of others; 1 Timothy 5:22
  • He who justifies the wicked and he who condemns the righteous are both alike an abomination to the Lord. Proverbs 17:15

Anyone, pagan or Christian, who knows anything about weddings (and Begg, a pastor who performs them, certainly should) can tell you that by being a non-objecting witness at a wedding, you are making the statement that you support and approve of the union. Why would any pastor suborn the sin of hypocrisy by encouraging a Christian to express disapproval of the union and then turn right around and demonstrate support for the union by joyfully attending the โ€œweddingโ€ with a gift? And, in the future, how is the grandmother, when sharing the gospel with her grandson, to call her grandson to repent of his sin when she has already approved of its codification by attending his โ€œweddingโ€? More hypocrisy!

Furthermore, though the grandson may know of the grandmotherโ€™s biblical disapproval, does his โ€œintendedโ€ know? Does the rest of the wedding party, the officiant, and all of the other guests know? Do all of her friends who know sheโ€™s attending the wedding know? To all of them, many of whom will know sheโ€™s a professing Christian, her attendance means she approves of the โ€œmarriageโ€. (All of these are also reasons Christians donโ€™t attend homosexual โ€œweddingsโ€.)

Shortly after the video above went viral in late January 2024, American Family Radio, which carries Beggโ€™s Truth for Life program on 1800 radio stations, contacted TFL leadership to plead with Begg to repent. He doubled down on his position, and AFR made the decision to stop carrying TFL.

A few days later, in his sermon at church, Begg addressed the backlash and calls to repentance he had received by saying he had no intention of repenting and had nothing to repent of. He then proceeded to cast those who decried his unbiblical advice to the grandmother as โ€œPhariseesโ€ and the older brother in Lukeโ€™s account of the prodigal son.

Begg was subsequently disinvited from speaking at the 2024 Shepherds Conference, and TFL was dropped from (Ligonier’s) RefNet’s lineup.

For more details and links regarding this incident, please listen to Talk Back: Alistair Begg at A Word Fitly Spoken, and check the show notes for more links.

Alistair Begg is not a new Christian or a young pastor who made a rookie mistake. This question should be a no-brainer for any Christian, let alone a seasoned pastor with many decades of experience and a world-wide public ministry. Counseling a sheep to base her behavior on a sinnerโ€™s opinions and feelings rather than to submit to and obey Godโ€™s clear Word, refusal to repent when corrected, and mishandling Godโ€™s Word belies a foundational problem with his theology as do his aforementioned errors. And because of that, I believe we will continue to see Begg make these kinds of blatant errors in the future.

In September of 2024, about nine months after the scandal broke regarding his advice to the grandmother, Alistair Begg announced that he would be retiring as pastor of Parkside Church. June 8, 2025 was his last day as pastor, but he remains active at Truth for Life and continues to speak at various venues.


Iโ€™m not saying Begg is a heretic on par with Benny Hinn or Kenneth Copeland. Far from it. I donโ€™t even consider him to be a false teacher at this time. I just no longer feel comfortable saying, โ€œHey, this is a great teacher. I recommend that you follow him,โ€ (i.e. putting him on my list of recommended teachers) when there are others I decline to recommend who also unrepentantly hold the same or similar erroneous positions.

Earlier in the “women preaching” sermon Begg humbly admits (as should every good pastor) that he and his church donโ€™t claim to have everything right, but that they will continue to grow in Christ and make corrections. If and when he corrects his errors (and any others that might come to light), and publicly repents, Iโ€™ll be delighted to reconsider him for inclusion on my Recommended Teachers list. Until that time, however, I cannot recommend that you follow him.


1This is not a website I endorse. It is linked only as evidence of the statements in this paragraph.

Discernment

Throwback Thursday ~ Of Mega-Blogs and Molotov Cocktails

Originally published January 30, 2014

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I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids, and I’m Not Sorry,ย screamed the headline. Quite an attention grabber. It certainly grabbed mine. So, of course, I read the article.

It was brash. Extremist. Rude. Rather one dimensional and completely devoid of nuance. And it made me mad, too, since I used to be a young woman with a husband and kids. (“Used to be,” as in, I still have the husband and kids and I’m still a woman, but “young” would be a stretch at this point.)

I was all set to write a blog post in response about the value of wifing, mothering, and working outside the home. You know, whatever God has called you to. So as prep for my article, I read the article again. And again.

And, like a toddler yanking at the hem of my skirt to get my attention, an epiphany pushed and shoved its way into my consciousness.

It wasn’t real.

Or maybe I should say: I suspect it wasn’t 100% sincere.

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Have you ever visited a mega-blog like Buzzfeed or Mashable? They churn out tons of cheap content every day, which means lots of hits on their web sites and lots of posts that go viral, which means lots of money from advertisers. (Nothing wrong with that, but it’s usually not terribly deep stuff. Sometimes people want a little mind candy, and that’s OK.)

Guess what? Lots of people want a piece of that pie and it’s easier to copycat than to innovate, so there are lots of other upstarts out there trying to become the next mega-blog. Like Thought Catalog, which published the aforementioned article on young women with husbands and kids.

As they say, there’s no such thing as bad publicity, and in a PR move that would make even Miley Cyrus chartreuse with envy, Thought Catalog threw out a Molotov cocktail of an article, stood back, and watched the crowd gather. Nearly a quarter of a million shares on Facebook. Almost 2000 re-tweets. Over 11,000 comments. From a PR standpoint, there’s pretty much no choice but to admire them.

Is Amy Glass, the author of the article, a real person? Maybe she is, or maybe it’s a pseudonym for someone who works for Thought Catalog as a content writer. If she’s a real person, are these her genuine thoughts and feelings, or did she throw in a hearty dose of hyperbole to push her readers into clicking, tweeting, sharing, pingback-ing, and writing response articles?

I don’t know.

There’s a lot of deception going on out there these days (I’m not saying Thought Catalog is being deceptive. Honestly, I haven’t poked around over there enough to know.) and it’s not just “out there.” It’s inside the walls of the church, as well.

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There are plenty of “Buzzfeed” pastors, leaders, and Christian authors who are throwing out cheap content and bombshells…

…2014 is going to be the year God turns everything around for you!
…Just say what you want! If you can say it, you can have it!
…God wants you to achieve all your dreams, so reach for the stars!

Joyce-Meyer

The glass breaks, the flames fly, and the crowd gathers. Their churches are overflowing with people. Their books become best sellers. They’re invited to speak at all the big conferences. And when the little guys start copying them and their methods, they know they’ve arrived.

But are they telling you the truth? And if you’re one of their devotees, how do you know whether or not they’re telling you the truth? Do you even want to know, or are you just happy with being entertained or being told what you want to hear?

There’s a way to find out. Get your Bible out and study it. Don’t just give it a surface reading– do the work and dig. Use the brain God gave you and pursue the knowledge of His word. Ask Him to open your eyes to understand the truth of Scripture. Love God with your mind, not just your emotions. Don’t be deceived.

Because they hated knowledge
and did not choose the fear of the Lord,
would have none of my counsel
and despised all my reproof,
therefore they shall eat the fruit of their way,
and have their fill of their own devices.
For the simple are killed by their turning away,
and the complacency of fools destroys them;
but whoever listens to me will dwell secure
and will be at ease, without dread of disaster.
Proverbs 1:29-33