Parenting

12 Techniques for Raising Bible-Saturated Kids

Phew. Thatโ€™s a pretty tall order, isnโ€™t it? God may have said this through Moses to Old Testament Israel, but His words are just as relevant for 21st century Christian parents. God wants our children immersed in His Word as they go about their daily lives. Ephesians 6:4 reminds fathers that they are to bring their children up โ€œin the discipline and instruction of the Lord,โ€ and as moms, we have the joy of supporting our husbands in that venture by bringing Scripture and prayer to bear on all those little daily โ€œwalk by the wayโ€ moments. But how? Here are some practical ways Iโ€™ve discovered for capturing those teachable moments and pouring Godโ€™s Word into them.

Capture those teachable moments with your kids and pour Godโ€™s Word into them!

1.
Set an example.

Be faithful to your own Bible study and prayer time. Let your children โ€œcatch you in the actโ€ from time to time. Share with them what youโ€™re learning from Godโ€™s Word, things youโ€™re praying about, things youโ€™ve asked God to forgive you for, etc.

2.
Train your children to have their own
daily Bible study time.

You might be surprised at how early you can start developing this godly habit in your child. With an infant, you might simply take a few minutes of her morning feeding to read aloud from your Bible and pray. With a toddler, you can regularly set aside five or ten minutes (when sheโ€™s not tired or hungry) for her to sit down and look at pictures in a childrenโ€™s Bible, maybe while youโ€™re sitting nearby with your own Bible, modeling for her. As children get a little older and can read, you can set aside a block of time before their bedtime for individual Bible study and prayer. When theyโ€™re very small, children arenโ€™t going to understand much from the Bible (although they will surprise you sometimes!), but they will still be absorbing some valuable things: the Bible is an important book, God is the top priority in my family, and God and His Word should be preeminent in my life.

3.
Establish a regular time of family worship at home.

If your husband is a believer, be careful not to usurp his leadership in this area. It is ultimately His responsibility to lead his family in worship. Help each other think of ways to make your family worship time age appropriate for the children, and support your husband as he teaches Godโ€™s Word. Also, understand that with children comes chaos. (My four children who are still at home range in age from 11 to 19, and I still have to remind them to quiet down and stay on track during family worship.) Itโ€™s going to happen. Just tuck and roll and donโ€™t give up.

4.
Sing.

Who cares if you canโ€™t carry a tune in a bucket? God doesnโ€™t, thatโ€™s for sure. Sing some hymns while youโ€™re washing the dishes. Sing along with some worship music (doctrinally sound, of course) in the car. Music is a great way to get Godโ€™s truths into your childโ€™s heart and mind.

Music is a great way to get Godโ€™s truths into your childโ€™s heart and mind.

5.
Conversation Prayer

During our family worship time, we used to go around and share prayer requests, then one or two people would pray. We found that the children were either forgetting the prayer requests or we would have to spend time writing them down. So now we often do what we have dubbed โ€œconversation prayerโ€. One parent will say a brief opening prayer, and then the โ€œfloor is openโ€ for anyone to say a (or several) one or two sentence prayer about whatever is on his heart (โ€œPlease help me do well on my math test tomorrow,โ€ or โ€œLord, please save Grandmamma.โ€). When it seems like everyone is finished, the other parent says a closing prayer.

6.
What is God up to?

Sometimes itโ€™s hard for children (and even adults) to recognize and remember the ways God is answering prayers and working in their lives. When our children were smaller, I put up a piece of posterboard on the wall of the breakfast room with the title โ€œWhat is God up to?โ€ at the top. Whenever God answered something we had been praying about, provided for us, moved in our lives in some way, or blessed us, we made a little note about it, along with the date. It had big things โ€“ like my daughter getting saved โ€“ as well as little things โ€“ like my son finally learning to tie his shoes. It helped my children to recognize Godโ€™s sovereignty over all areas of our lives, that He does answer prayer, and that He gets the glory for everything.

Help your children recognize Godโ€™s sovereignty over all areas of our lives, that He does answer prayer, and that He gets the glory for everything.

7.
Letโ€™s pray about this.

Your children are going to struggle with things. Theyโ€™re going to have times of rejoicing and times of sorrow. There will be times when they have disobeyed and need to repent of their sin. What better opportunities to teach them to take everything to God in prayer? Teach them how to ask God for help when something is too hard. Teach them to thank God for blessing them and ask Him to comfort them when theyโ€™re sad. Show them how to ask God for forgiveness when theyโ€™ve done wrong.

8.
Sprinkle life with Scripture.

(In order to do this, youโ€™re going to have to know Scripture, so be sure to be faithful to your own study of Godโ€™s Word.) When you see a beautiful sunset, talk about how God created the sun and moon. When your child is kind to someone, praise him and tell him God wants us to be kind to others. When you discipline him, show him his sin from Scripture, and talk about repentance and Godโ€™s forgiveness.

9.
Memorize Scripture together.

There is a wonderfully wide variety of Scripture memory resources out there. My children were all involved in a Scripture memory program at church when they were small, and we worked on their memory verses together at home. Our home schooling curriculum, at the kindergarten level, had a 26 verse Scripture memory program in which we memorized a verse beginning with each letter of the alphabet. Seeds Kids Worship is a fantastic program with word for word Scripture songs and other great resources. There are even apps that can help. And you can always make up your own fun programs, songs, and contests to help the whole family memorize Godโ€™s Word.

10.
Ask questions.

โ€œWould God be pleased with the way youโ€™re acting? How do you know?โ€ โ€œWhat does the Bible say about the way we should treat each other?โ€ โ€œWhat does the Bible say about _____?โ€ Questions like these get your children thinking. They take your children from simply reading and hearing Godโ€™s Word to applying Scripture to their lives and recognizing that they must submit to it.

Take your children from simply reading and hearing Godโ€™s Word to applying Scripture to their lives and recognizing that they must submit to it.

11.
The Gratitude Game

Forget the tablets and the radio. This is a great way to harness that down time in the car (or anywhere else) and use it to teach your kids about prayer and thankfulness. Itโ€™s kind of like playing โ€œI Spy.โ€ Just look out the window and take turns thanking God for what you see: โ€œThank You, God, for making birds.โ€ โ€œThank You for ice cream.โ€ โ€œThank You for police officers who help us.โ€ Or pray for people as you pass by various buildings. โ€œGod, please help the sick people in that hospitalโ€ฆhelp the pastor of that church do a good job of preaching Your Wordโ€ฆprovide homes for the people in that shelterโ€ฆโ€ We also made it a habit to pray for victims of accidents or tragedies whenever we saw an ambulance or fire truck.

12.
Kiddievangelism

Our kids need to see us sharing the gospel with people as a normal part of everyday life, and we need to explain to them why itโ€™s so important. Thereโ€™s an easy way to get your kids personally involved, too, especially when theyโ€™re small: tracts. Get some doctrinally sound tracts (my favorites are from Bezeugen) and let your child leave one in the waiting room at the doctorโ€™s office, on the table when you leave McDonaldโ€™s, or hand one to the cashier at the store. Iโ€™ve had people turn me down when I offer them a tract, but whoโ€™s going to refuse an adorable three year old? Get them started on a lifelong habit of sharing the gospel wherever they go.

Get your children started on a lifelong habit of sharing the gospel wherever they go.

 

As Christian parents itโ€™s our responsibility before God to train our children in the Scriptures, prayer, and godliness. If we slow down and ask God to direct us, He will show us all kinds of ways we can teach them diligently to our children, when we sit in our houses, and when we walk by the way, and when we lie down, and when we rise.

What are some fun or unique ways youโ€™ve found
to pour Godโ€™s Word into your childrenโ€™s everyday lives?

Thanks/Thanksgiving

Give Thanks with a Grateful Heart

 Originally published November 26, 2008

O give thanks to the LORD,
for He is good;
For His lovingkindness is everlasting.
1 Chronicles 16:34

Thanksgiving is upon us. It’s my favorite holiday. I get “time off” from my job (although as a stay at home mom, my “time off” looks a lot like my “time on”!); I get to visit with family; there’s no mad rush of gift shopping; and, the whole holiday is centered around eating. What could be better?

There’s only one thing I don’t look forward to about the holiday I love best. I’m not happy with the way Christmas has begun to overshadow Thanksgiving. The radio stations started playing Christmas carols before Halloween. The stores put out Christmas decorations earlier and earlier every year. The commercials for Christmas gifts and sales have been prolific since October. You almost get a sense that, aside from the good people at Butterball, retailers consider Thanksgiving to be in the way. They know that Thanksgiving is the “Gentlemen, start your engines!” rallying point for most shoppers, and without it, they could probably push Black Friday back to September and combine it with their Labor Day sales.

But more than my own personal annoyance and my desire to gather up all the retail CEOs and the media in one place and shout at them, “Nobody puts Thanksgiving in a corner!” I’m concerned for all of us as a national community. With everything that’s going on in our country and the world right now, do we really need to skip over being thankful?

With everything that’s going on in our country and the world right now, do we really need to skip over being thankful?

We Americans are so blessed we’ve become numb and ungrateful. What a slap in the face to people all over the world for whom simply surviving another day is an almost insurmountable task. How often do we have to worry about having water to drink that’s clean enough not to make us sick? How many of us are starving to death because we have no access to food? How often do we have warring factions marching through our front yards? When was the last time we secretly huddled together to worship, afraid that at any moment we could be arrested, tortured, killed?

In the mad rush of all that is going on in our day to day lives, maybe it’s not such a bad idea to slow down and give Thanksgiving its due.

In the mad rush of all that is going on in our day to day lives, maybe it’s not such a bad idea to slow down and give Thanksgiving its due.

Thank you, Lordโ€ฆ
โ€ฆthat I can see, hear, move, think clearly, and attend to my own needs.
โ€ฆthat I live in a country that protects my freedoms.
โ€ฆfor the family with which Youโ€™ve blessed me.
โ€ฆfor the roof over my head.
โ€ฆfor enough to eat.
โ€ฆfor saving me.

Don’t skip Thanksgiving this year. Don’t push it over in a corner and treat it as though it’s an interruption of your Christmas plans. Relish it. Wallow in it. Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good!

Thanks/Thanksgiving

25 Things I Forgot to Thank God For

Originally published March 13, 2015

I’ve just been in a funk, lately. Nothing out of the ordinary is wrong, but it’s been raining for eleventy two days in a row, and the constant darkness and dreariness seems to have wormed its way into my psyche and, I noticed recently, even into my prayer life.

A couple of days ago, I started out my prayer time with a huge sigh followed by a bunch of wimpering and whining about nothing of consequence. I was just moody. And I didn’t feel like praying.

And then God graciously brought a lovely little snippet of Scripture to my mind:

give thanks in all circumstances;
for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

1 Thessalonians 5:18

Want to know God’s will for your life? There it is: give thanks in all circumstances. When you get a new car. When you catch your spouse cheating on you. When you’re on a glorious vacation. When you get laid off from work. When you’re happy. When you’re sad. When you’re in the mood, and when you’re not in the mood.

Give thanks in – not necessarily for, but in – all circumstances.

Well, this was certainly a circumstance. Why not give gratitude a try? I was in the car headed to pick up my boys from school, and I decided to spend the entire twenty minute drive just thanking God for things.

I started with the big stuff: salvation, forgiveness for my sin, times when God has miraculously provided, specific answers to prayer…

How often do we forget to thank God for all the (in our eyes) tiny little unnoticed things He does for us every day?

I was starting to slow down and I still had about half the drive left. Surely there was more to be thankful for! And that’s when it struck me. How often do we forget to thank God for all the (in our eyes) tiny little unnoticed things He does for us every day? We thank Him for the miracles, but what about the mundane? What “little things” had I forgotten to thank God for?

1. Air conditioning. I live in the South. Enough said.

2. I know where my next meal is coming from.

3. Social media and e-mail. I can keep up with far off loved ones, and I’ve “met” some awfully nice people.

4. I can see. I can hear. I can think clearly. I can walk.

5. I live in a country where Christianity is not yet against the law.

6. Sunsets.

7. Cute baby animals.

8. I can read and write. That’s not the case for women, globally.

9. I was able to conceive and carry my children to term.

10. Warm quilts on cold nights.

11. The Bible is available in my native language, and I have several copies of it.

12. I have no fear of suicide bombers in my community.

13. The beach.

14. A crawfish boil with friends.

15. Reliable electricity.

16. Hearing my children sing when they think no one is listening.

17. My husband is a Believer and is good to me.

18. Mountains. I miss mountains.

19. Indoor plumbing and clean drinking water.

20. Laughing hysterically with my family.

21. Level-headed discernment ministries.

22. Peanut butter and chocolate ice cream.

23. A roof over my head.

24. Home schooling.

25. People who are kind (or crazy) enough to read my blog articles all the way to the end.

Well, that was my list, and I think I’ll keep looking for things to add to it. Thanking God for the “little things,” realizing they might be big things to others, and recognizing the pervasiveness of God’s blessings and provision cheered me up and was truly a worship experience.

We thank Him for the miracles, but what about the mundane?

What kinds of things would you put on your list?

Thanks/Thanksgiving, Top 10

Top Ten Songs for Thanksgiving

Originally published November 18, 2016

Isnโ€™t Thanksgiving a wonderful holiday? Itโ€™s a whole day set aside for feasting and thanking God for all of the glorious things He has done for us. And whatโ€™s a celebration without great music? Here, in no particular order, are my top 10 picks for beautiful and joyful songs of Thanksgiving. (Click on the titles of the videos without screen lyrics for a lyric sheet in case youโ€™d like to sing along!)

And if you prefer a playlist format, Iโ€™ve compiled all of the songs below into my YouTube Thanksgiving playlist.

Thanksgiving is a whole day set aside for feasting and thanking God for all of the glorious things He has done for us. And what’s a celebration without great music?

1. We Gather Together

It’s the iconic song of Thanksgiving, and for good reason. Won’t it be amazing to one day “gather together” with our brothers and sisters from all over the world to offer thanks and praise to our great and glorious God?

2. O Give Thanks

This was a new one for me this year, but it’s already a favorite. With its phenomenal theology and singability, this one is probably already a Thanksgiving staple in many churches.

3. Now Thank We All Our God

“With hearts and hands and voices.” We thank God in our hearts and by singing and praying to Him, but let’s not forget to serve Him, and others, as an act of thanks as well.

4. Give Thanks

This song quickly became a Thanksgiving standard in the 90’s. I love the way it points us to the simple truth of being thankful for Christ.

5. Come, Ye Thankful People, Come

Sit down and read over the lyrics of this one if you have a moment. The hymnist beautifully weaves together the idea of harvest time and God’s provision for us with the idea that we are God’s “crop,” wheat and tares sown together. And one day “the Lord our God shall come, and shall take the harvest home.”

6. Thank You, Lord, for Saving my Soul1

Did you know this song had verses? I have to say I feel a little cheated. I’ve been singing this song all my life and never knew of the three precious verses about thankfulness in this song. We need to bring them back!1

7. For the Beauty of the Earth

How often do we forget to thank God for the simple things? The beauty of the earth, the love of family and friends, the church, and Christ, God’s best gift of all.

8. I Thank You, Lord

I’m sorry, but if this song doesn’t have you dancing across the kitchen with the turkey, you’d better check your praise thang to make sure it ain’t broke. “I thank you Lord. You’ve been so good to me.” Not a thing wrong with that! (Sorry, I couldn’t find a lyrics sheet.)

9. Count Your Blessings

What a lovely treat from the chorale of The Master’s University. When’s the last time you counted your blessings? Thanksgiving is a great day to start, but don’t forget to keep counting (and thanking God) all year through!

10. He Has Made Me Glad

Drawn from Psalm 100 and 118, this sweet little song reminds us of the joy of simply being in God’s presence and thanking Him for who He is.

What’s your favorite Thanksgiving song, or song of thanks and praise to God?

What’s your favorite Thanksgiving song,
or song of thanks and praise to God?


1I appreciate this sweet sister sharing her rendition of Thank You, Lord, for Saving My Soul, but I’d like to get a higher quality video of this song (I scoured YouTube and Vimeo, and this was the absolute best I could find that included the verses). I’m looking for, at minimum, a duet, but preferably a quartet, ensemble, or choir (from a reasonably doctrinally sound church) version, a capella or accompanied, original, not modernized. It should include all of the verses, high quality audio, and high quality vocal talent. I can’t offer to pay you, all I can offer you is some exposure every year at Thanksgiving when I re-run this article. Interested? Put it on YouTube and send me the link.


I have not exhaustively vetted these musicians and songwriters, and I do not endorse any of them whose lives or beliefs conflict with Scripture or my beliefs as outlined in the Statement of Faith or Welcome tabs at the top of this page.

Mailbag, Thanks/Thanksgiving

The Mailbag: Teaching Children Gratefulness

Originally published November 22, 2021

Do you know of any Biblically sound books that will help teach a 3 yr old how to have a grateful heart? My daughter is trying to cultivate that in my 3 yr old grandson.

Awww, how sweet! What a blessing that he has a godly mommy and Grammy (or Mimi or Mamaw or…).

My youngest child is 18 so I’m not familiar with whatever is currently popular and available, although I’m sure there are some good, doctrinally sound children’s books out there. (Readers, if you have any suggestions, let this sister know in the comments.)

But if you’ll indulge me a trip down memory lane to wallow in sentimentality for just a moment, this was my daughter’s favorite book when she was a toddler (and all her little brothers loved it too!). It combines counting skills, thankfulness, and a hymn – pretty great, if you ask me!

Count Your Blessings by Donna D. Cooner, 1995

Now, it’s just sitting in my closet waiting for my grandchildren to enjoy it…โค

If you decide to buy some toddler books on gratitude, I would just caution you to vet the authors of any book you’re considering just like you would vet the author of a book for adults. There are many false teachersPriscilla Shirer, Sarah Young, and Sheila Walsh just to name a few off the top of my head – who have branched out into writing children’s books.

But honestly, I think this is a great opportunity for you and your daughter to start teaching your grandson the Bible, Scripture memory, and prayer as it relates to being grateful to God.

This is a great opportunity to start teaching your child the Bible, Scripture memory, and prayer as it relates to being grateful to God.

Read some stories about people in the Bible who were thankful – the thankful leper, Zacchaeus, Noah, Daniel, rebuilding the temple…really any story in which God acts, provides, or protects and people thank Him for it – and ask a few simple questions.

  • What did the main character in the story need or ask God for? What did God do?
  • What did the main character say or do when God acted, provided, or protected?
  • Has God ever acted, provided for, or protected you like that? How can we tell Him thank you?

Grab your concordance and look up some words and phrases like “give thanks“. Find a simple verse(s), talk about what it means, and practice saying it together. You might be surprised at just how quickly he can memorize those verses! The Bible verse memes in my article Top 10 Bible Verses on Giving Thanks are perfect for printing out or copying to your phone or tablet for this.

Another way to reinforce giving thanks to God is through music. You may find something helpful at Seeds Kids Worship, or just create your own playlist on your favorite music platform.

One way I helped my children remember to be thankful (and let me tell you, it didn’t just help my children!) was with a simple little game I called The Gratitude Game. Itโ€™s kind of like playing โ€œI Spy.โ€ Just look out the window when you’re driving around in the car, or look around as you’re taking a walk, and take turns thanking God for what you see: โ€œThank You, God, for making birds.โ€ โ€œThank You for ice cream.โ€ โ€œThank You for police officers who help us.โ€

Be sure to model thankfulness, too. When you or your daughter say bedtime prayers or the blessing before meals with your grandson, be sure to spend some time thanking God for things and acknowledging Him as provider, protector, the Giver of blessings, and so on. Remark thankfully on various things throughout the day: “I’m so thankful God gave us a warm day to play outside,” “Thank you, God, for sending the ice cream truck our way!” Also make sure you’re showing gratitude to people. Set the example for your grandson of saying “Thank you,” sending thank you notes or gifts, and demonstrating appreciation for others.

Books can be fun and helpful, and I hope you find a good one for your little sweetie, but you can’t beat stories and activities that center on Scripture itself.

When it comes to teaching your little ones gratitude, you can’t beat stories and activities that center on Scripture itself.


If you have a question about: a Bible passage, an aspect of theology, a current issue in Christianity, or how to biblically handle a family, life, or church situation, comment below (Iโ€™ll hold all questions in queue {unpublished} for a future edition of The Mailbag) or send me an e-mail or private message. If your question is chosen for publication, your anonymity will be protected.