Christian women, Ministry

Mary and Martha and Jesus and Women’s Ministry

Originally published March 11, 2016

You remember the story. Jesus comes to Mary and Martha’s house. Martha’s Pinteresting up the place while Mary sits at Jesus’ feet to listen to Him teach. Martha gripes to Jesus that Mary should help her and Jesus says no because it’s better for her to listen to Him than fold napkins into the shape of swans or whatever. Moral of the story- Martha needs to relax and not let other things distract her from Jesus.

Thatโ€™s a good, true, and important takeaway from this passage, and one that we would all do well to heed.

But did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is. Jesus is the main character in every Bible story, so our primary focus should always be on Him: what He said and did and was like.

Did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is.

What was Jesus teaching that day at Mary and Marthaโ€™s house? The passage doesnโ€™t tell us the topic He was speaking about, but we are privy to a very important lesson He imparted through the scenario with Mary and Martha. A lesson about the way God loves and values women.

Remember how women were generally regarded at that time? They didnโ€™t have much more value than livestock, furniture, or a manโ€™s other possessions. They were considered intellectually inferior, they werenโ€™t formally educated, and their legal and social standing were often tenuous at best. They could not go beyond the Court of the Women at the temple for worship. There was even a traditional prayer Jewish men recited in which they thanked God for not making them a woman, a Gentile, or a slave. Women were low man on the totem pole, so to speak.

And thatโ€™s where we find Martha. She wasnโ€™t doing anything wrong that day. In fact, in her culture, she was doing everything right. If anything, Mary would have been the one viewed as being in the wrong because the teaching was for the men, and it was the womenโ€™s job to bustle around taking care of all the hospitality duties. Martha knew this. Mary knew this. Jesus knew this. Everyone else present knew this. Martha must have wondered why someone hadnโ€™t yet shooed Mary out of the living room and into the kitchen. So her statement to Jesus in verse 40, โ€œLord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me,โ€ was probably not just, โ€œI need another pair of hands,โ€ but also a bit of, โ€œMary is forgetting her place. This isnโ€™t what proper women do.โ€

Oh yes, it is.

Whatever else He might have been lecturing about that day, that was one of the lessons Jesus taught Mary, Martha, the rest of their guests, and Christendom at large.

Women arenโ€™t second class citizens in the Kingdom of God. We are precious and valuable to Him. He has important, worthwhile work for us to do โ€“ His way – in the body of Christ. And He wants us trained in His Word in order to carry out that work.

How did Jesus teach that lesson?

First, He allowed Mary to stay and receive His teaching (39). (We see this echoed in Godโ€™s instruction to the church in 1 Timothy 2:11: โ€œLET a woman learnโ€ฆโ€) It hadnโ€™t slipped Jesusโ€™ mind that she was sitting there. He could have told her to leave, but He had no intention of doing so. Jesus wanted Mary there. He wanted to teach her and to have her learn Godโ€™s word from Him.

Next, when someone tried to take Mary away from hearing and being trained in Godโ€™s word, Jesus โ€“ God Himself โ€“ answered with a resounding NO. This โ€œwill not be taken away from her,โ€ Jesus said. Mary, and Martha too (41), could arrange centerpieces or turn a cookie into a work of art any time or never. But this, the teaching of Godโ€™s Word, was urgent. Vital. Jesus didnโ€™t want either of them to miss it by focusing on the trivial things they thought they should be pursuing.

And He doesnโ€™t want us to miss it either, ladies.

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Is the womenโ€™s events page on your churchโ€™s web site filled exclusively with painting parties, fashion shows, ladiesโ€™ teas, and scrapbook sessions?

Does your womenโ€™s ministry do canned โ€œBibleโ€ studies authored by women who offer nothing but personal stories, experiences, and false doctrine?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Jesus didnโ€™t think so.

Letโ€™s have our women’s ministries train women in the full scope of biblical womanhood. Let’s be serious students of Godโ€™s Word by picking it up and studying it like mature women. Letโ€™s get equipped to teach and disciple other women who are babes in Christ. Letโ€™s share the gospel with the lost. Letโ€™s learn how to train our own children in the Scriptures and be the ones to raise the bar for what the kids at our church are being taught. Letโ€™s roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty ministering to those who are ill, in prison, lonely, poor, elderly, considering abortion, experiencing crisis; who have wayward children, problems in their marriages, a parent with Alzheimerโ€™s, or have lost a loved one.

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests. More than cutesy crafts and fairy tales masquerading as biblical teaching. Letโ€™s put the โ€œministryโ€ โ€“ ministry of the Word and ministry to others โ€“ back in โ€œwomenโ€™s ministry.โ€

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests.

Faith

Back to the Basics, Part 2: Sit at His Feet


Hello, readers! I am taking this week off. I hope you’ll enjoy this three part series while I’m gone.


Part 1


Originally published January 16, 2011

Luke 10:38-42:

Now as they were traveling along, He entered a village; and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. She had a sister called Mary, who was seated at the Lordโ€™s feet, listening to His word. But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, โ€œLord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me.โ€ But the Lord answered and said to her, โ€œMartha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.โ€ 

I enjoy staging productions and events when I have time and the occasion calls for it. I put together business events when I worked a โ€œrealโ€ job. I staged musicals when I directed childrenโ€™s choirs. But the production I enjoyed staging the most was my wedding.

I didnโ€™t have a wedding planner. Hardly anyone did back then, and, besides, I wanted to do it myself. I had a ball picking out flowers, shopping for the cake, and taking care of all the other arrangements. But even though I enjoyed those things, on my wedding day, I wasnโ€™t immersed in taking care of little details. I was focused on my husband. It would have been silly of me to neglect him in favor of rearranging centerpieces or something like that. And, today, my marriage would be a pretty cold place if all I ever did was fold my husbandโ€™s laundry and serve him meals without us spending any time just enjoying each otherโ€™s company.

Itโ€™s easy to see how those kinds of scenarios would be detrimental to a marriage. But as members of the bride of Christ, we do things like this all the time. We get so wrapped up in serving God that we forget about sitting at His feet and loving Him. Itโ€™s like having a birthday party without the guest of honor. Or a marriage without a husband.

We get so wrapped up in serving God that we forget about sitting at His feet and loving Him.

Serving God in ministry is important โ€“ after all, if no one put his hand to the plow and served, weโ€™d have no pastors, teachers, missionaries, etc. โ€“ but our one on One relationship with God should take precedence over everything else. We get the cart before the horse when our relationship with the Lord is completely tied up in ministry and its results and effectiveness rather than in our own individual relationship with a Personโ€“ Jesus Christ.

Iโ€™ve always jokingly said that God needs Marthas like me, because without us, nothing in the Kingdom would get done. But Iโ€™m discovering thatโ€™s not true. God doesnโ€™t need the efforts of any human being in order to get Kingdom work accomplished. Heโ€™s quite capable of getting the work done on His own. And, frequently, the tasks on my list that I think need to be done are not the same as the items on His agenda.

Therefore they said to Him,
โ€œWhat shall we do, so that we may work the works of God?โ€
Jesus answered and said to them,
โ€œThis is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He has sent.โ€

John 6:28-29

Jesus isnโ€™t my boss; Heโ€™s my bridegroom.

He doesnโ€™t need my work; He wants my heart.

Jesus isnโ€™t my boss; Heโ€™s my bridegroom. He doesnโ€™t need my work; He wants my heart.

Itโ€™s my job to love Him, to know Him, to have an intimate relationship with Him.

โ€˜Scuse me, Iโ€™ve got some work to catch up on.

Christian women, Ministry

Mary and Martha and Jesus and Women’s Ministry

You remember the story. Jesus comes to Mary and Martha’s house. Martha’s Pinteresting up the place while Mary sits at Jesus’ feet to listen to Him teach. Martha gripes to Jesus that Mary should help her and Jesus says no because it’s better for her to listen to Him than fold napkins into the shape of swans or whatever. Moral of the story- Martha needs to relax and not let other things distract her from Jesus.

Thatโ€™s a good, true, and important takeaway from this passage, and one that we would all do well to heed.

But did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is. Jesus is the main character in every Bible story, so our primary focus should always be on Him: what He said and did and was like.

Did you ever stop to think that Mary and Martha arenโ€™t the main characters in this story? Jesus is.

What was Jesus teaching that day at Mary and Marthaโ€™s house? The passage doesnโ€™t tell us the topic He was speaking about, but we are privy to a very important lesson He imparted through the scenario with Mary and Martha. A lesson about the way God loves and values women.

Remember how women were generally regarded at that time? They didnโ€™t have much more value than livestock, furniture, or a manโ€™s other possessions. They were considered intellectually inferior, they werenโ€™t formally educated, and their legal and social standing were often tenuous at best. They could not go beyond the Court of the Women at the temple for worship. There was even a traditional prayer Jewish men recited in which they thanked God for not making them a woman, a Gentile, or a slave. Women were low man on the totem pole, so to speak.

And thatโ€™s where we find Martha. She wasnโ€™t doing anything wrong that day. In fact, in her culture, she was doing everything right. If anything, Mary would have been the one viewed as being in the wrong because the teaching was for the men, and it was the womenโ€™s job to bustle around taking care of all the hospitality duties. Martha knew this. Mary knew this. Jesus knew this. Everyone else present knew this. Martha must have wondered why someone hadnโ€™t yet shooed Mary out of the living room and into the kitchen. So her statement to Jesus in verse 40, โ€œLord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me,โ€ was probably not just, โ€œI need another pair of hands,โ€ but also a bit of, โ€œMary is forgetting her place. This isnโ€™t what proper women do.โ€

Oh yes, it is.

Whatever else He might have been lecturing about that day, that was one of the lessons Jesus taught Mary, Martha, the rest of their guests, and Christendom at large.

Women arenโ€™t second class citizens in the Kingdom of God. We are precious and valuable to Him. He has important, worthwhile work for us to do โ€“ His way – in the body of Christ. And He wants us trained in His Word in order to carry out that work.

How did Jesus teach that lesson?

First, He allowed Mary to stay and receive His teaching (39). (We see this echoed in Godโ€™s instruction to the church in 1 Timothy 2:11: โ€œLET a woman learnโ€ฆโ€) It hadnโ€™t slipped Jesusโ€™ mind that she was sitting there. He could have told her to leave, but He had no intention of doing so. Jesus wanted Mary there. He wanted to teach her and to have her learn Godโ€™s word from Him.

Next, when someone tried to take Mary away from hearing and being trained in Godโ€™s word, Jesus โ€“ God Himself โ€“ answered with a resounding NO. This โ€œwill not be taken away from her,โ€ Jesus said. Mary, and Martha too (41), could arrange centerpieces or turn a cookie into a work of art any time or never. But this, the teaching of Godโ€™s Word, was urgent. Vital. Jesus didnโ€™t want either of them to miss it by focusing on the trivial things they thought they should be pursuing.

And He doesnโ€™t want us to miss it either, ladies.

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Jesus pulled women out of the craft room and into the study. Is the womenโ€™s ministry at your church trying to pull them back?

Is the womenโ€™s events page on your churchโ€™s web site filled exclusively with painting parties, fashion shows, ladiesโ€™ teas, and scrapbook sessions?

Does your womenโ€™s ministry do canned โ€œBibleโ€ studies authored by women who offer nothing but personal stories, experiences, and false doctrine?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Are the Marys in your church who want to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His word rightly handled and taught being scolded by the Marthas for not staying in their place and embracing the banality the womenโ€™s ministry is doling out?

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Jesus didnโ€™t think so.

Letโ€™s have our women’s ministries train women in the full scope of biblical womanhood. Let’s be serious students of Godโ€™s Word by picking it up and studying it like mature women. Letโ€™s get equipped to teach and disciple other women who are babes in Christ. Letโ€™s share the gospel with the lost. Letโ€™s learn how to train our own children in the Scriptures and be the ones to raise the bar for what the kids at our church are being taught. Letโ€™s roll up our sleeves and get our hands dirty ministering to those who are ill, in prison, lonely, poor, elderly, considering abortion, experiencing crisis; who have wayward children, problems in their marriages, a parent with Alzheimerโ€™s, or have lost a loved one.

Is this it? Is this all women are good for in the church- fluff and false doctrine?

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests. More than cutesy crafts and fairy tales masquerading as biblical teaching. Letโ€™s put the โ€œministryโ€ โ€“ ministry of the Word and ministry to others โ€“ back in โ€œwomenโ€™s ministry.โ€

Women are worth more and capable of more than the bill of goods theyโ€™re being sold by โ€œChristianโ€ retailers suggests.

Faith

Back to the Basics, Part 2: Sit at His Feet

Luke 10:38-42:

Now as they were traveling along, He entered a village; and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. She had a sister called Mary, who was seated at the Lordโ€™s feet, listening to His word. But Martha was distracted with all her preparations; and she came up to Him and said, โ€œLord, do You not care that my sister has left me to do all the serving alone? Then tell her to help me.โ€ But the Lord answered and said to her, โ€œMartha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her.โ€ 

I enjoy staging productions and events when I have time and the occasion calls for it. I put together business events when I worked a โ€œrealโ€ job. I staged musicals when I directed childrenโ€™s choirs. But the production I enjoyed staging the most was my wedding.

I didnโ€™t have a wedding planner. Hardly anyone did back then, and, besides, I wanted to do it myself. I had a ball picking out flowers, shopping for the cake, and taking care of all the other arrangements. But even though I enjoyed those things, on my wedding day, I wasnโ€™t immersed in taking care of little details. I was focused on my husband. It would have been silly of me to neglect him in favor of rearranging centerpieces or something like that. And, today, my marriage would be a pretty cold place if all I ever did was fold my husbandโ€™s laundry and serve him meals without us spending any time just enjoying each otherโ€™s company.

Itโ€™s easy to see how those kinds of scenarios would be detrimental to a marriage. But as members of the bride of Christ, we do things like this all the time. We get so wrapped up in serving God that we forget about sitting at His feet and loving Him. Itโ€™s like having a birthday party without the guest of honor. Or a marriage without a husband.

We get so wrapped up in serving God that we forget about sitting at His feet and loving Him.

Serving God in ministry is important โ€“ after all, if no one put his hand to the plow and served, weโ€™d have no pastors, teachers, missionaries, etc. โ€“ but our one on One relationship with God should take precedence over everything else. We get the cart before the horse when our relationship with the Lord is completely tied up in ministry and its results and effectiveness rather than in our own individual relationship with a Personโ€“ Jesus Christ.

Iโ€™ve always jokingly said that God needs Marthas like me, because without us, nothing in the Kingdom would get done. But Iโ€™m discovering thatโ€™s not true. God doesnโ€™t need the efforts of any human being in order to get Kingdom work accomplished. Heโ€™s quite capable of getting the work done on His own. And, frequently, the tasks on my list that I think need to be done are not the same as the items on His agenda.

Therefore they said to Him,
โ€œWhat shall we do, so that we may work the works of God?โ€

Jesus answered and said to them,
โ€œThis is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He has sent.โ€

John 6:28-29

Jesus isnโ€™t my boss; Heโ€™s my bridegroom.

He doesnโ€™t need my work; He wants my heart.

Jesus isnโ€™t my boss; Heโ€™s my bridegroom. He doesnโ€™t *need* my work; He wants my heart.

Itโ€™s my job to love Him, to know Him, to have an intimate relationship with Him.

โ€˜Scuse me, Iโ€™ve got some work to catch up on.