Christian women, Guest Posts, Parenting

Avoiding the Creepers: Six Ways to Raise a Biblically Strong Woman

If someone were to ask you, โ€œWhat kind of person do you want to raise your daughter to be?โ€ how would you answer? Caring? Independent? Loyal? Kind?

Iโ€™m betting none of us would answer โ€œweak,โ€ โ€œburdened with sins,โ€ โ€œeasily led astray by her passions,โ€ or โ€œunable to arrive at a knowledge of the truth.โ€ Yet in these last days in which we find ourselves, thatโ€™s exactly what many good-hearted Christian mothers with nothing but the best of intentions are raising their daughters to be. Itโ€™s not that they want their daughters to grow up to be spiritually weak or led astray by sin or unbiblical teaching, itโ€™s just that they lack the skills and tools necessary for properly training their daughters in the Scriptures and godliness.

Maybe youโ€™re one of those moms. You want to train your daughter to be a wise, godly, discerning woman, but youโ€™re not quite sure how. Hey, we all have those areas of our lives that we need a little help with. As an older mom myself, maybe I can lend a hand.

My daughter is almost twenty, and while sheโ€™s nowhere near perfect, by the grace of God, she is a godly young lady. Looking back, there are many things my husband and I did wrong as parents. But God, in His mercy, covered our failures and saw all of us through as He taught us through His Word how to raise a biblically strong woman.

6 Ways to Raise a Biblically Strong Woman

1. Set an example.

Our daughters learn by watching us. Faithfully study your Bible, pray, attend church, obey Godโ€™s Word, submit to your husband, repent and ask forgiveness when you sin, and serve others and your church together.

2. Learn, and teach your daughter, good hermeneutics.

Hermeneutics is just a fancy word for rightly handling Godโ€™s word. Use a reliable Bible translation. Understand Scripture in its immediate and overall context. What was the authorโ€™s intended meaning, his audience, genre, and culture? Point your daughter to Christ as you study Godโ€™s Word together.

3. Find a doctrinally sound church, join it, and attend faithfully as a family.

Study Godโ€™s Word and compare everything thatโ€™s preached and taught to Scripture (in context). Does your churchโ€™s teaching line up? Then be committed to attending every single week, not just when you feel like it or when thereโ€™s nothing better to do. Instill in your daughter a love for, and a commitment to, the church.

4. Fight the fluff.

Unfortunately, many of the most popular preachers, teachers, and Christian authors (including womenโ€™s Bible study authors) teach and write things that may sound good and make us feel good, but are in direct conflict with Scripture. These are the very people Paul was speaking of in 2 Timothy 3. Teach your daughter to follow only trustworthy teachers whose theology is in line with Scripture.

5. Bring prayer and Scripture into every situation.

She canโ€™t find her favorite doll? Kids picking on her at school? She wants to wear clothes that barely cover her? Discuss what the Bible say about these things. Pray together about them. Lead your daughter into prayer and Scripture as part of daily life, and it will teach her that God is to have authority over every aspect of our lives and that we are to obey Him in all things.

6. Teach her how to share the gospel.

If youโ€™re not sure how to properly present the gospel to someone, learn. You canโ€™t lead your daughter to Christ if you canโ€™t share the gospel with her. If your daughter is already saved, make sure she knows how to correctly share the gospel with friends and loved ones. The Great Commission was the last instruction Christ gave us before leaving earth, and we are all to be about the business of carrying it out until He returns.

The 2 Timothy passage at the beginning of this article is our commission to guard our households against ungodly ways and people โ€“ even those who may falsely call themselves Christians โ€“ who might creep in and steal our daughtersโ€™ hearts and minds away from Christ. He has charged us to train them in godliness, and we must faithfully answer His call to raise wise, discerning, and biblically strong women of God.

What advice would you offer moms who want to raise
biblically strong women?


And for all you boy moms, be sure to check out…

Six Ways to Raise a Godly Man

Wednesday's Word

Wednesday’s Word ~ Judges 10

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Judges 10

After Abimelech there arose toย save Israel Tola the son of Puah, son of Dodo, a man of Issachar, and he lived at Shamir inย the hill country of Ephraim.ย 2ย And he judged Israel twenty-three years. Then he died and was buried at Shamir.

3ย After him arose Jair the Gileadite, who judged Israel twenty-two years.ย 4ย And he had thirty sons whoย rode on thirty donkeys, and they had thirty cities, called Havvoth-jair to this day,ย which are in the land of Gilead.ย 5ย And Jair died and was buried in Kamon.

6ย The people of Israel again did what was evil in the sight of theย Lordย and served the Baals and the Ashtaroth, the gods of Syria,ย the gods of Sidon, the gods of Moab, the gods of the Ammonites, and the gods of the Philistines. And theyย forsook theย Lordย and did not serve him.ย 7ย So the anger of theย Lordย was kindled against Israel, andย he sold them into the hand of the Philistines and into the hand of the Ammonites,ย 8ย and they crushed and oppressed the people of Israel that year. For eighteen years they oppressed all the people of Israel who were beyond the Jordan in the land of the Amorites, which is in Gilead.ย 9ย And the Ammonites crossed the Jordan to fight also against Judah and against Benjamin and against the house of Ephraim, so that Israel was severely distressed.

10ย And the people of Israelย cried out to theย Lord, saying, โ€œWe have sinned against you, becauseย we have forsaken our God and have served the Baals.โ€ย 11ย And theย Lordย said to the people of Israel, โ€œDid I not save youย from the Egyptians andย from the Amorites,ย from the Ammonites andย from the Philistines?12ย The Sidonians also, andย the Amalekites and the Maonites oppressed you, and you cried out to me, and Iย saved you out of their hand.ย 13ย Yet you haveย forsaken me and served other gods; therefore I will save you no more.ย 14ย Go and cry outย to the gods whom you have chosen; let them save you in the time of your distress.โ€ย 15ย And the people of Israel said to theย Lord, โ€œWe have sinned; do to us whatever seems good to you. Only please deliver us this day.โ€ย 16ย So they put away the foreign gods from among them and served theย Lord, andย he became impatient over the misery of Israel.

17ย Then the Ammonites were called to arms, and they encamped in Gilead. And the people of Israel came together, and they encamped atย Mizpah.ย 18ย And the people, the leaders of Gilead, said one to another, โ€œWho is the man who will begin to fight against the Ammonites?ย He shall be head over all the inhabitants of Gilead.”


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright ยฉ 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.


 

Questions to Consider:

1. Why did God place judges in authority over Israel?

2. Why was God angry with Israel? (v. 6-7) Which Commandment was Israel guilty of violating? How does Judges 10:7 illustrate that God is a jealous God?

3. Why is it so important to God that his people worship Him alone? What can we as Christians learn from God’s anger towards Israel in this chapter? How does this passage relate to 2 Corinthians 6:14-18?

4. In verse 10 and verse 15, Israel cries out to the Lord, confessing, “We have sinned.” Is there a difference between the two confessions? Were these confessions genuine sorrow over sin? How can you tell? What action on Israel’s part follows the second confession? (v. 16)

5. What does the word “impatient” mean in verse 16? Examine this verse in the HCSB, NASB, NIV, and KJV translations. How can cross checking other reliable translations aid in your study of God’s word?

Homosexuality, Salvation

God Loves Gays

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Last week, as I was mindlessly flipping through Facebook, this picture caught my eye. It was attached to a news article about the Supreme Court’s hearing on same sex “marriage”. I was already at my saturation point with the reporting on the day’s events, but this picture just reached out and grabbed my heart.

“God loves gays,” the young man’s sign says. Rarely, perhaps never, has a statement been so beautifully true and so painfully false all at the same time.

For one will scarcely die for a righteous personโ€”though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to dieโ€” but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Romans 5:7-8

It’s true. God does love gays. He doesn’t love them because He sees what they might someday become after leaving the lifestyle behind. He doesn’t love them because they’re great “fixer upper” projects. He doesn’t love them because He feels sorry for them. He just loves them. Right where they are. Not after they get cleaned up. Now.


ย God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.


Have you ever really thought about the implications of that statement?

God loves the homosexual man whileย he is sodomizing his partner.

God loves the gang banger whileย he is pulling the trigger of his gun.

God loves the prostitute while she is servicing her client.

God loves the child molester while he is violating that precious little one.

God loves the atheist soldier in a godless country while he is torturing Christians.

In the deepest, blackest night of our sin, God lovesย each and every one of us. Only a profoundly, unfathomably good and kind God could, or would, do such a thing.

But the story doesn’t end there.

You see, as unbelievable as it is that God could love someone so drenched in evil, He takes things a step further. God’s love motivated Him to act.


while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.


Rescue. Redemption. Salvation. However you want to put it, God personally came down and sacrificed Himself so that even the most wretched sinner would have a way out. No more enslavement to evil. No more being pawns of the devil in his never-ending quest for revenge against the King. No more separation from God, now, or in eternity.

God drove a cross-shaped stake into the ground at Calvary and said, “No more.”

God does love gays. And murderers. And child rapists. And hookers. And even prideful, rebellious, good little Sunday School girls like me. But not like this young man’s sign implies. He thinks God shows love by approving of his homosexuality. But an all-powerful God who would say He loves sinners and yet leave them to rot in their sin without lifting a finger to help them isn’t loving. Isn’t all-powerful. Isn’t God.

God does love you, my young friend. You simply have no idea how much.

Wednesday's Word

Wednesday’s Word ~ Joshua 24

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Joshua gathered all the tribes of Israelย to Shechem andย summoned the elders, the heads, the judges, and the officers of Israel. Andย they presented themselves before God.ย 2ย And Joshua said to all the people, โ€œThus says theย Lord, the God of Israel, โ€˜Long ago,ย your fathers lived beyond the Euphrates, Terah, the father of Abraham and of Nahor; andย they served other gods.ย 3ย Then I took your father Abraham from beyond the River andย led him through all the land of Canaan, and made his offspring many.ย I gave him Isaac.ย 4ย And to Isaac I gaveย Jacob and Esau.ย And I gave Esau the hill country of Seir to possess,ย but Jacob and his children went down to Egypt.ย 5ย And I sent Moses and Aaron,ย and I plagued Egypt with what I did in the midst of it, andย afterward I brought you out.

6ย โ€œโ€˜Thenย I brought your fathers out of Egypt, andย you came to the sea.ย And the Egyptians pursued your fathers with chariots and horsemen to the Red Sea.ย 7ย And when they cried to theย Lord,ย he put darkness between you and the Egyptiansย and made the sea come upon them and cover them;ย and your eyes saw what I did in Egypt.ย And you lived in the wilderness a long time.ย 8ย Then I brought you to the land of the Amorites, who lived on the other side of the Jordan.ย They fought with you, and I gave them into your hand, and you took possession of their land, and I destroyed them before you.ย 9ย Then Balak the son of Zippor, king of Moab, arose and fought against Israel.ย And he sent and invited Balaam the son of Beor to curse you,ย 10ย but I would not listen to Balaam.ย Indeed, he blessed you. So I delivered you out of his hand.ย 11ย And you went over the Jordan and came to Jericho,ย and the leaders of Jericho fought against you, and alsoย the Amorites, the Perizzites, the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Girgashites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites. And I gave them into your hand.ย 12ย And I sentย the hornet before you, which drove them out before you, the two kings of the Amorites; it wasย not by your sword or by your bow.ย 13ย I gave you a land on which you had not laboredย and cities that you had not built, and you dwell in them. You eat the fruit of vineyards and olive orchards that you did not plant.โ€™

14ย โ€œNow therefore fear theย Lordย and serve him in sincerity and in faithfulness.ย Put away the gods that your fathers served beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve theย Lord.ย 15ย And if it is evil in your eyes to serve theย Lord,ย choose this day whom you will serve, whetherย the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, orย the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell.ย But as for me and my house, we will serve theย Lord.โ€

16ย Then the people answered, โ€œFar be it from us that we should forsake theย Lordย to serve other gods,17ย for it is theย Lordย our God who brought us and our fathers up from the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery, and who did those great signs in our sight and preserved us in all the way that we went, and among all the peoples through whom we passed.ย 18ย And theย Lordย drove out before us all the peoples, the Amorites who lived in the land. Therefore we also will serve theย Lord, for he is our God.โ€

19ย But Joshua said to the people, โ€œYou are not able to serve theย Lord, for he isย a holy God. He isย a jealous God;ย he will not forgive your transgressions or your sins.ย 20ย If you forsake theย Lordย and serve foreign gods, thenย he will turn and do you harm and consume you, after having done you good.โ€ย 21ย And the people said to Joshua, โ€œNo, but we will serve theย Lord.โ€ย 22ย Then Joshua said to the people, โ€œYou are witnesses against yourselves thatย you have chosen theย Lord, to serve him.โ€ And they said, โ€œWe are witnesses.โ€ย 23ย He said, โ€œThenย put away the foreign gods that are among you, and incline your heart to theย Lord, the God of Israel.โ€ย 24ย And the people said to Joshua, โ€œTheย Lordย our God we will serve, and his voice we will obey.โ€ย 25ย So Joshuaย made a covenant with the people that day, and put in placeย statutes and rules for them at Shechem.ย 26ย And Joshuaย wrote these words in the Book of the Law of God. Andย he took a large stone and set it up thereย under the terebinth that was by the sanctuary of theย Lord.ย 27ย And Joshua said to all the people, โ€œBehold,ย this stone shall be a witness against us, forย it has heard all the words of theย Lordย that he spoke to us. Therefore it shall be a witness against you, lest you deal falsely with your God.โ€ย 28ย So Joshuaย sent the people away, every man to his inheritance.

29ย After these things Joshua the son of Nun, the servant of theย Lord, died, being 110 years old.ย 30ย And they buried him in his own inheritance atย Timnath-serah, which is in the hill country of Ephraim, north of the mountain of Gaash.

31ย Israel served theย Lordย all the days of Joshua, and all the days of the elders who outlived Joshuaย and had known all the work that theย Lordย did for Israel.

32ย As for the bones of Joseph, which the people of Israel brought up from Egypt, they buried them at Shechem, in the piece of landย that Jacob bought from the sons of Hamor the father of Shechem for a hundred pieces of money.ย It became an inheritance of the descendants of Joseph.

33ย And Eleazar the son of Aaron died, and they buried him at Gibeah, the town ofย Phinehas his son, which had been given him inย the hill country of Ephraim.


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright ยฉ 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.


 

Questions to Consider:

1. Verse 1 lists the groups of people God was speaking to in this chapter. Who are they? What place do they occupy in Israelite society?

2. In the Old Testament, we often see passages in which God (or one of His prophets) is reciting Israel’s history. Why, in general, would God do this, and why, in particular does He recite Israel’s history in this chapter? (14, 28)

3. In verses 14-18, what ultimatum does Joshua put to the people, and what is their response?

4. Why, after telling the people to choose between serving God and serving foreign gods, did Joshua tell them they would not be able to serve God? What did he mean when he said God would not forgive them? (19-20)

5. What was the purpose of the stone Joshua set up? (26-27) Which ordinances of the church today can serve a similar function for Christians?

Wednesday's Word

Wednesday’s Word ~ 2 Corinthians 4

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2 Corinthians 4

Therefore, havingย this ministryย by the mercy of God,ย we do not lose heart.ย 2ย But we have renouncedย disgraceful, underhanded ways. We refuse to practiceย cunning orย to tamper with God’s word, butย by the open statement of the truthย we would commend ourselves to everyone’s conscience in the sight of God.ย 3ย And evenย if our gospel is veiled,ย it is veiled toย those who are perishing.ย 4ย In their caseย the god of this worldย has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeingย the light ofย the gospel of the glory of Christ,ย who is the image of God.ย 5ย For whatย we proclaim is not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, withย ourselves as your servantsย for Jesus’ sake.ย 6ย For God, who said,ย โ€œLet light shine out of darkness,โ€ย has shone in our hearts to giveย the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.

7ย But we have this treasure inย jars of clay,ย to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.ย 8ย We areย afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;ย 9ย persecuted, butย not forsaken;ย struck down, but not destroyed;ย 10ย always carrying in the body the death of Jesus,ย so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.ย 11ย For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh.ย 12ย Soย death is at work in us, but life in you.

13ย Since we haveย the same spirit of faith according to what has been written,ย โ€œI believed, and so I spoke,โ€ we also believe, and so we also speak,ย 14ย knowing thatย he who raised the Lord Jesusย will raise us also with Jesus andย bring us with you into his presence.ย 15ย Forย it is all for your sake, so that asย grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving,ย to the glory of God.

16ย So we do not lose heart.ย Though our outer selfย is wasting away,ย our inner selfย is being renewed day by day.ย 17ย Forย this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,ย 18ย as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright ยฉ 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.


 

 

Questions to Consider:

1. Identify the antecedents of the pronouns in this chapter. Who is “we“? Who is “they”? (3)

2. What does it mean that the gospel is “veiled”? To whom is it veiled and why? (3-4) How could God save these people if the gospel is veiled?

3. What are the two instances or events of light shining in darkness which Paul is comparing in verse 6?

4. In verse 7, what is the “treasure”? What are the “jars of clay”?

5. What does Paul say is the purpose (15) of the persecution and suffering he mentions in verses 8-9? Why do they “not lose heart”? (16-18)