Holidays (Other), New Year's

Sanctification Over Resolutions: 6 Ways God Could Sanctify You in the New Year

Originally published January 1, 2018

Happy New Year!

There’s just something about the beginning of a new year that brings with it a yen for getting a fresh start. We think back over the past year, evaluate what we’ve spent our time and efforts on – or what we should have spent our time and efforts on – and, invariably, there’s a desire to make this year better.

Lots of people make lots of resolutions on January 1: to lose weight, to stop smoking, to exercise more. And by mid-February, some 80% of those people will have failed and given up on their resolutions.ยน Why? Partly because (statistically speaking) most of those people are lost and the flesh is exceedingly hard to tame by sheer “pull yourself up by your own bootstraps” willpower. Even Holy Spirit-indwelt Believers can testify to the pull of the flesh.

Should we, as Christians make New Year’s resolutions? Is it OK to set a goal to get a certain area of our lives under better control? Sure, there’s nothing wrong with that. But, is it possible there’s a bigger picture we need to take a look at?

Should we, as Christians make New Year’s resolutions? Sure, there’s nothing wrong with that. But, is it possible there’s a bigger picture we need to take a look at?

The Christian life is not one of putting out fires via resolutions. We don’t tackle one problem, get it under control and then move on to each of the other five problems that popped up while we were working on the first one. It’s more like fire prevention. We get up every day and hose down the house and yard by resting in Christ, communing with Him through prayer and the Word, and seeking to obey Him throughout the day. Sanctification is not mainly reactive, it’s proactive. And it doesn’t come by our own outward effort and striving, but by Christ growing us, changing our hearts, and enabling us to obey Him from the inside out.

Sanctification is not mainly reactive, it’s proactive.

And guess what? Along the way as Christ is conforming you to His image, you’re going to fail. You’re going to give in to temptation, and you’re going to sin against your Master. But here’s what biblical sanctification offers you that New Year’s resolutions cruelly withhold:

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
Lamentations 3:22-23

You don’t just get a fresh start once a year. You get a fresh start every time you confess your sin, repent, and receive Christ’s cleansing and forgiveness. You get the mercy of Christ, the grace of God, and the empowerment of the Holy Spirit to move forward in submission to God’s Word. You get the steadfast, never ceasing love of the Father who is out for your good rather than the unfeeling “do more, try harder, be better” taskmaster of New Year’s resolutions.

So, bearing all that in mind, how might God be trying to grow you in Christlikeness this year? What are some ways you can get up each day and proactively rest in, and obey Christ? Let’s prayerfully consider the following aspects of our walk and ask God to sanctify us and help us submit our will to His as we follow Him in this new year.

Growing in the Word

1. Daily personal Bible study. Do you set aside daily time for the personal study of God’s Word? Have you ever read the Bible from cover to cover? Have you considered, maybe just for this year, putting away all of the Bible study books and materials authored by others and using only the Bible during the next 365 days of your personal study time? Evaluate your daily time in God’s Word. Here are some resources you might find helpful:

๐Ÿ“–ย Bible Study Resourcesย (how to study the Bible)
๐Ÿ“–ย Bible Studies
๐Ÿ“–ย Bible Reading Plans for the New Year- 2026
๐Ÿ“–ย Youโ€™re Not as Dumb as You Think You Are: Five Reasons to Put Down that Devotional and Pick Up the Actual Bible

2. Scripture memorization. This is something God got a hold of me about several years ago. It’s important to store up God’s Word in our hearts as a weapon against temptation, for comfort, for prayer, and to encourage others. Try starting with verses you’re already somewhat familiar with. Many find it easier to memorize Scripture in song form, or by typing it out. If your pastor is preaching through a certain book, memorize a verse or passage out of each chapter as he comes to it. I’ve found it helpful to recite my verses in my head in bed at night. It helps me fall asleep faster, and there’s actually research that shows retention is improved if you study right before bed.

๐Ÿง  Scripture Memory with Susan Heck at A Word Fitly Spoken

Growth In Prayer

3. Daily prayer time. Of course we should be talking to the Lord throughout the day as we go about the routine of life and work, but that’s not a substitute for having a daily block of time set aside for focusing all of our attention on communicating with God. Jesus set this example for us, and we should follow it. Do you have a daily time of prayer? Do you know how to pray in a way that’s pleasing to God and helps you grow in Christ?

๐Ÿ™ Prayer
๐Ÿ™ After this Manner Therefore Pray
๐Ÿ™ Basic Training: 8 Things You Need to Know about Prayer
๐Ÿ™ Sweet Hour of Prayer (Bible study on prayer)

Growth in the Body of Christ

4. If you don’t have a solid church, find one. Physically gathering with the Body of Christ for worship, teaching, fellowship, prayer, baptism, the Lord’s Supper, giving, serving – and so much more – is not optional. It’s vital to your growth in Christ.

โ›ช Basic Training: 7 Reasons Church is Not Optional and Non-Negotiable for Christians
โ›ช Six Ways Not to Forsake the Assembly
โ›ช Searching for a new church?

5. Faithful church attendance. At a minimum, Christians should be at Sunday morning worship and Sunday School/Bible study class/small group every week unless Providentially hindered (circumstances beyond your control: illness, emergency, the rare out of town trip, occasionally having to work). That’s not legalism, that’s loving the Bride of Christ and having your priorities in line with Scripture. Contrary to popular metrics, habitually missing Sunday worship twice or more a month (when you could be there if you made it a priority) is not faithful attendance. If you’re lackadaisical in church attendance, examine your heart. What’s going on in your spiritual life that’s keeping you from wanting to gather with your brothers and sisters in Christ? (And if it’s a problem with the church itself, see #4.)

6. Don’t just “go to church,” invest yourself in it. Are you serving your church in some capacity? Do you regularly and fervently pray for your church, your fellow church members, and your pastors, elders, and teachers? Have you poured yourself into personal relationships with others at church for fellowship, care, and discipling? Do you regularly, sacrificially, and joyfully give offerings? Are you sharing the gospel with the lost? As with anything else, you get out of it what you put into it. God loves you and wants you to invest yourself in His Bride for His glory and for your joy.

โ›ช The Servanthood Survey
โ›ช Let Me Count the Ways: 75 Ways Women Can Biblically Minister to Others
โ›ช Servanthood
โ›ช Top 10 Ways to Pray for Your Pastor
โ›ช To Tithe or Not to Titheโ€ฆ
โ›ช Evangelism

How might God want to conform you more to the image of Christ this year? Could it be in one of these areas? Maybe another area? New Year’s resolutions are often about how you want to shape your life. Sanctification is about how God wants to shape your life. Not just for the new year, but for eternity.

New Year’s resolutions are often about how you want to shape your life. Sanctification is about how God wants to shape your life. Not just for the new year, but for eternity.


ยนLuciani, Joseph. “Why 80 Percent of New Year’s Resolutions Fail.” U.S. News & World Report. December 29, 2015. Web. December 29, 2017.
Holidays (Other), New Year's

Info., Reminders, and Announcements for the New Year

Happy (almost!) New Year! I hope you’ve had a lovely holiday season with family and friends and that Christ has blessed you with rest and worship.

As we get things kicked off for the new year next week here on the blog, I wanted to share some information, reminders, and announcements with you.

๐ŸŽ‰ Are you new to my blog? Here’s some quick info. to help you get acclimated.

๐ŸŽ‰ Starting next week, I’ll be going back to my Tuesday – Thursday (rather than Monday – Friday) blog schedule.

๐ŸŽ‰ If my blog and resources have been helpful to you and you’d like to bless my family with a gift via PayPal, Patreon, or CashApp, please click here. Your kindness and generosity are greatly appreciated. Big hugs and thank you’s to those who have donated in the past or donate regularly!

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๐ŸŽ‰ Are you listening to A Word Fitly Spoken yet? Amy and I would love for you to join us on your favorite podcast platform. Starting next week we’ve got some super new episodes to help you get 2025 started on the right foot.

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Thank you so much for your loyal readership and the kind words so many of you have encouraged me with. You are such a blessing to me, and it is my honor to serve you through writing and resources. May we all strive to please our Lord Jesus Christ together in 2026, and may this be the year of His coming.

Holidays (Other), New Year's

The Mailbag: My word for the year is…

Originally published January 7, 2019

I canโ€™t seem to find information on one topic that keeps coming up with women I am friends with. โ€œOne wordโ€ for the year. They are all waiting to โ€œhearโ€ from God what one word they need to focus on for the year. I have been asked what my word for the year is. I just think… the Word Of God is my word for every year. Do you happen to have any links, resources, or input?

I wish there weren’t any links or resources on this, but, unfortunately, it looks like a small cottage industry – both secular and evangelical – is growing up around this unbiblical concept. (I’m not going to give anyone free advertising and website hits by providing their links.)

The idea is pretty simple. You pick (or God “speaks” to you) a word that represents some sort of change you want to see in your life and you focus on that word, especially during situations when you want to see that change manifest itself, for the remainder of the year. For example, if you want to be a more peaceful person, you might choose “peace” as your word for the year. You find some way to think about or meditate on the word “peace” every day, but especially in worrisome or chaotic situations, and that’s supposed to make you a more peaceful person by the end of the year.

The only problem with this is – as with so many things in pop evangelicalism – the Bible.

You will not find this practice taught, endorsed, or even mentioned in the Bible. In fact, I suspect this idea traces its roots back to some form of Eastern mysticism. It’s a modern day twist on repeating a mantra. And somebody thought it would be a good idea to “Christianize” it – so she slapped a thin coat of “this is how God can speak to you and work in your life” paint over the surface of it.

That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works. You don’t just get to make up Christianity as you go along. That’s God’s job, not ours, and He already set it up exactly the way He wants it – in the Bible.

We know that God is not going to speak a certain “word for the year” to people for two reasons. First of all, extra-biblical revelation is unbiblical. God speaks to us through His all-sufficient written Word, not audibly. Which brings us to reason number two. Because God speaks to us through His written Word, and there’s nothing in His written Word about getting a word for the year, we can be certain that He’s not going to be whispering a word for the year in anybody’s ear.

OK, so let’s take the extra-biblical revelation component out of it. What if we go at it from a sanctification angle? Maybe I’ve noticed that I tend to worry too much, so I decide, for the sake of my own spiritual growth, that my word for the year is going to be “peace”, and I’m going to focus on that word this year?

Still not biblical. Not just because it’s not taught in the Bible (although that’s certainly reason enough), but for a host of other reasons as well.

For starters, we are not in charge of our sanctification, God is. He is the one who gets to decide what work He’s going to do in our hearts, and how He’s going to do that. And that’s a really good thing because He is infinitely wiser and more powerful than we are and He knows our hearts much better than we do. You probably won’t hear many of your girlfriends choosing words like “suffering”, “humility”, or “repentance” as their word for the year, but God knows that areas like these – the ones we often push back against with the greatest resistance – are the ones we usually need the most work on.

Next, sanctification isn’t linear. You don’t tackle peace, master it, then move on to patience, master it, and then move on to whatever’s next. And that’s how this “word for the year” thing is set up. This year, you choose the word “peace”. Next year, maybe you’ll choose “patience”, and so on. But what do you do when you get to the end of the year and you know you haven’t mastered peace yet? What then? Do you choose the word “peace” again? Give up on peace and choose another word?

Biblical sanctification is more like a big bowl of spaghetti noodles. Everything is all tangled up and inter-connected. At any given time, God could be working on one or five or a dozen different aspects of your character. And while you’ll rejoice when you occasionally look back over how much you’ve grown, you’ll never “master” any aspect of Christlikeness this side of Glory.

Finally, God has already prescribed our role in sanctification, and meditating on a particular word for the year is not even a little part of it. Our role in sanctification is to abide in Christ. How? We learn the “how” of abiding in Christ from studying our Bibles. John 15 offers us a little glimpse:

V.1: I [Jesus] am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Recognize that, as I mentioned, God is the vinedresser – the one who prunes, waters, fertilizes, harvests – not you.

V.2: …every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit. Bear up under pruning as God conforms you to the image of Christ. Cooperate with whatever He’s working on in your life by obeying Him, thanking Him, and realizing that He’s doing it to make you more fruitful.

V.4: As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. Recognize and practice your dependence on Christ and His work for you and in you, not on a word you meditate on. You can’t be a fruitful Christian by coming up with your own way to grow in Christ. You can only do it His way.

V.7a: If you abide in me, and my words abide in you… To abide in Christ is simply to live for Him and commune with Him day by day. One of the ways we do that is to study “His words” – the Bible – so that those words will live in us. We ingest the words of Christ by studying our Bibles at home, with our Sunday School or Bible study class at church, sitting under good preaching at our church, and consuming other biblical materials during the week.

V.7b: …ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. If you’re abiding in Christ and His Word is abiding in you – what kinds of “whatever you wish” things do you think you’ll be asking Him for? Your foundational prayer to anything else you might ask for will be for God to be glorified and for Him to make you more like Christ. “Father, please heal me, but only if that will glorify You and make me more like Christ.” “Lord, I’d like You to take away this difficult situation at work, unless letting it continue would grow me to be more like Christ. Help me to glorify You no matter what.” Prayer is one of God’s prescribed methods of sanctification.

V.8: By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples. Glorify God by bearing the fruit of the Spirit, displaying the fruit of obedience, harvesting the fruit of evangelism, and by doing so, displaying for the world what a real disciple of Christ looks like in order to point them to Him.

V.10,12,14: If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love…This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you…You are my friends if you do what I command you. Obey Christ’s commands and love others the way He loves you. That’s the heart of your role in sanctification. It’s an outward focus on how you can bring Him glory in any situation by obeying Him and loving others with a die-to-self love rather than a navel-gazing, self-centered, inward focus on “How can I be a better me?”.

V.11: These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. Don’t forget the joy! What joy is there in a word that you focus on? How can you quantify whether or not you’re a better person at the end of the year and derive joy from that? Sanctification God’s way offers instant, daily gratification in the joy department. Joy dwells in us because the Holy Spirit dwells in us. Joy wells up when we see the hand of God at work in our hearts and lives, when He answers prayer, even just from spending time with Him in His Word, worship, and prayer. Joy is communion with a Person, not satisfaction over a job well done of pulling yourself up by your own boot straps.

This “word for the year” thing is not necessary or biblical. When someone asks you what your word for the year is, just hold up your Bible and tell her, “All of these.”

This “word for the year” thing is not necessary, it’s not biblical, and it kicks God out of His rightful place of authority in sanctification and attempts to put self in the driver’s seat. You’re on the right track with your thinking. When someone asks you what your word for the year is, just hold up your Bible and tell her, “All of these.” After all, Christ gives us abundant life. Why would we limit ourselves to one measly little word when we can study all of God’s words?


If you have a question about: a Bible passage, an aspect of theology, a current issue in Christianity, or how to biblically handle a family, life, or church situation, comment below (Iโ€™ll hold all questions in queue {unpublished} for a future edition of The Mailbag) or send me an e-mail or private message. If your question is chosen for publication, your anonymity will be protected.

Christmas, Holidays (Other)

Giving Tuesday

It’s Giving Tuesday! Big thank you’s to all of my followers who have ever supported my ministry financially, but especially to those of you who so generously send in your support on an ongoing basis!

Today, people will be supporting all sorts of charities, many of which stand in opposition to the Word of God. If you’d like to support the spread of sound doctrine to Christian women, I’d be most grateful if you’d click here and donate.

Thank you and Merry Christmas!

Christmas, Holidays (Other), Thanks/Thanksgiving

Holy Holidays: 149 Christian-Owned Businesses to Support while You Christmas Shop

This article will be pinned to the top of the blog until closer to Christmas so you can easily locate it for shopping. If you’re looking for my most recent article, keep scrolling. It immediately follows this one.

It’s (almost) Black Friday! Time to shop til you drop…into your favorite comfy chair, fire up ye olde internet, and check out the deals at these businesses owned by some of your brothers and sisters in Christ.

There’s nothing wrong with shopping at a big box store that’s advertising great deals or supporting the mom and pop shop down the street, but if you see something you like for a good price at one of these online stores, why not throw a little business to family? Galatians 6:10 says:

So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.

See an opportunity? Grab it and do good to someone in the household of faith.

All the disclaimers:

๐ŸŽ„ Here’s how this list came about: Every year, I put out a general call on social media and the blog asking people to recommend Christian-owned businesses for this article. Well, you know how things on social media get shared around to a friend of a friend and aunt Myrtle’s third cousin’s step-nephew’s veterinarian. So what I’m saying is, while the people who recommended or own these businesses say that these are Christian-owned businesses, I can’t vouch for the actual, day to day spiritual state of any of the recommenders or owners. I’ve checked out each business website as best I can to make sure none of them promote anything unbiblical (giving the benefit of the doubt when possible – these are gifts, not sermons), but I can’t tell you whether or not Stan of “Stan’s Snow Shovels” is a faithful member of his local church.

โ€ขIf the theology of the business owner is extremely important to you, I urge you to contact him/her directly to inquire before making your purchase.

โ€ขI would strongly encourage you to thoroughly vet the theology of any Christian author or musician listed below whose book, music, or other materials you’re considering purchasing.

โ€ขIf you do see something blatantly unbiblical (for example: support of homosexuality, abortion, clear heresy, promotion of false teachers, etc.) on one of these sites (or on the business owner’s social media), it’s possible I missed it or it was added after I vetted the site. Please let me know and I’ll check it out.

๐ŸŽ„ These are Christian-owned businesses, but the products they make are not all necessarily “Christian” (i.e. they don’t all have Bible verses or Christian sayings on them).

๐ŸŽ„ Take the category listings below loosely. If you’re looking for something specific, take a look at as many of these businesses as you can, because most of them carry more than one type of product (ex: jewelry and wall art, apparel and home decor). I’ve tried to categorize them according to the main product type they sell, but many are quite eclectic. You might find the coffee mug you’re looking for under the “apparel” category.

๐ŸŽ„ Most of these businesses are carried over from last year’s article. A few of them seem as though they may have taken a hiatus (i.e. no social media posts for months). Check with the owner to make sure she’s still in business, and if you find out that she’s definitely not, please let me know so I can remove the business.

๐ŸŽ„ Some of these businesses are based outside the U.S. Be aware of this with regard to shipping costs, time, etc. when ordering.

๐ŸŽ„ Some of these businesses may be having Cyber Monday sales instead of Black Friday sales. Check with each business to get the best deals!

Apparel

Epiphany Boutique

Garlands of Grace

Kraffty Kat

Sunshine and Spoons

The Farmhouse

Babies/Kids/Maternity/Nursing Apparel and Accessories

A Great Baby

His Kids Company

Holy Pals

Shoepiddy Doos

The Glassy Quilt Shop

Threadlynn

Art/Art Items

Birds of the Air Artist

Blossom With Joy Co.

Crystal Bright and Blue

Dapper and Darling

Hope Ink

Jean Cormier

Rebecca Lynne Kinane

RefToons

Bags & Accessories

Bug and Beluga

Design the Everything

Go Forth Goods

Night Heron Leather

Books and Media

(specific authors/topics and general retailers
See also “Christian Books, Apparel, & Gifts”)

Brooke Bartz

Susan Heck

Gabriel Hughes

Allen Nelson

Nate Pickowicz

Proverbs 9:10 Ministries

Owen Strachan

The Essential Church Movie

Untold Secrets of Planet Earth

Candles

Brave and Courageous

Little Shepard Acres

Christian Books, Apparel, & Gifts

(See “Music and Audio” category for Christian music and audio.)

Crafts and Crafting

A Faith Creation

Eight22 Crafts

Coffee

Five Lakes Coffee

Owl Eye Coffee Roasters

Rebel Roaster Coffee

Reformed Roasters

Seven Weeks Coffee

6 Beans Roasting

Squirrelly Joe’s Coffee

Customization

Reflections by Carla Rolfe

TX Custom Creations

Edible, Cooking, and Nutrition

Bulk Herb Store

ENAK Seasonings

Ganas Pecan Company

Grandad Farms

Low Country Olive Oil

Richie’s Kitchen & Bakery

Swiss Pantry

Electronics

Just Audio

Furniture

Pure Chairs

TruMake

Gardening/Plants

Headwind Consumer Products

Housewares, Home/Holiday Decor

4Eleven Metalworks

Chapter and Verse Studios

C. Schreier Designs

Farmstead Cottage

The inSPIRITed Home

The King & I Crafts

The Lefty Letters

Redemption Threads

Stitched by Nats

Table Decor and More

Tea & Honey Designs

Woodlander Workshop

Jewelry & Jeweled Accessories

Alia Renee Designs

Blessed Hope Nepal

Bliss, Books, and Jewels

Claire’s Creative Finds

Gianna’s Jewelry Box

Girl Ran Away

Little Light Artisans

Pottery by Amos

SilverWear by Linda

Tabitha Artisans

The Dream Corner Shop

The Silver Beatle

Wasson Watch Co.

Kitchen

Domestic Dominion

Gum Creek Boards

Schrader Woodcraft

South Blossom Designs

TimmyTurned

Music & Audio

2GBG Music

Brian Sauvรฉ

Jonathan Park Audio Adventures

Laura Saeler

Majesty Music

Seeds Kids Worship

The Corner Room

Wrath and Grace

Paper, Cards, & Stationery

Butterflyers

ROC Paper Scissors

Soap, Bath, Cosmetics, Personal Care, Skin Care

A’del Natural Cosmetics

Beehive Naturals

Calico & Twine

Daddy and Me Farms

Drenched

Green Mountain Farms

KatieLane Designs

Miller’s Grove

Reformed Skin Care

Rosy Hill Organics

Stonehaven Homestead

Zambeezi

Toys, Kids/Baby Items, Educational

According to Gretchen

This Reading Mama

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Miscellaneous Christian
Christmas Shopping Resources

๐ŸŽ„ Check the comments section of this article to see if my readers have posted any new suggestions.

๐ŸŽ„ Want to explore more Christian businesses? Try the Christian Business Referral Network for a wide variety of products and services.


What’s your favorite Christian-owned
online business for Christmas gifts?

Comment below (please include the business’ website)
and maybe it will be included on next year’s list.

(No multi-level marketing or personal sales businesses
– ex: Pampered Chef, essential oils, Tupperware – please.)