Originally published June 27, 2014
“I’m so tired of flowers,” sighed the elderly woman in the TV commercial as my jaw hit the floor. She had just described how her husband of fifty years, seated next to her, brought her flowers on their first date, and every year since had given her the same bouquet on that day.
And she was tired of flowers.
It wasn’t enough that she had a husband who stayed with her for fifty years. Or that he actually remembered the day of their first date every year. Or that he was caring enough to send her flowers on that date. Or that he was sentimental and romantic enough to send her the same flowers every year.
No. She was tired of flowers. She wanted the product the commercial was trying to sell.
I wanted a shoe to throw at the TV.
My husband brought me flowers today. I know, in the picture they look rather more like birthday candles than flowers. That’s because, technically, my flowers were birthday candles.
I was getting ready for our youngest son’s birthday party. I had already made a trip to the store and thought I had everything I needed. Until I discovered I was nearly out of baking powder. My husband was out running errands, so I sent him a text asking if he could pick some up for me. He did. No problem. Until I remembered I didn’t have any candles for the birthday cake. And he had already left the store. And it was raining.
“And it was raining.” I say that like it’s just so pedestrian, like it’s some normal, everyday thing, which, in south Louisiana in June, I assure you, it is not. Every day, yes. Normal, no. Remember that scene in one of those ’90’s “asteroid crashes into the earth” movies where the asteroid has just hit and the man and his daughter are standing on the beach watching the huge resulting tidal wave roll in to engulf them? Well if, instead of the beach, you can imagine yourself trying to navigate a WalMart parking lot with a buggy full of groceries and four kids in tow in the middle of that tidal wave, you’ll have some idea of what monsoon season is like down here.
And you know what my husband did when I asked him to go get birthday candles in that mess? He did it gladly. No complaints. No asking, “Why didn’t you think about this sooner?” He just walked in the house, soaked and smiling, and handed me the candles.
No bouquet could have been better.
Ladies, my husband has a lot of faults. I’ll bet yours does too. Because just like us, they’re sinful human beings. Often, like the lady in the commercial, we trample over a dozen roses to plant our feet in a briar patch. We overlook the ways our husbands are a blessing to us and focus only on our complaints.
Maybe he didn’t get you exactly what you wanted for your birthday, but does he work hard every day to support your family? So, he didn’t notice your new haircut right away. Does he give the kids their bath every night? Yes, his dirty socks are constantly on the floor in front of the hamper, but didn’t he change the oil in the car yesterday?
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says:
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
The next time you’re tempted to complain about your husband’s shortcomings, why not praise God instead for a way that he has blessed you or done something admriable? And let’s make sure to thank our husbands for those little “flowers” they bring us every day.
4 thoughts on “Throwback Thursday ~ My Husband Brought Me Flowers Today”
This is such a great blog post! I read it to my husband and he got a kick out of your wanting to throw your shoe at the tv! My husband isn’t the typical “romantic” type, but I’m okay with that because honestly neither am I. But I’ve said on countless occasions that how he shows his love for me is all the tangible things he does that to him, are just every day things, but to me, they show how much he cares. I work overnights and he works days and is up every morning at 3am and takes our dogs out at 4am every morning and feeds them. Given that we live in the Midwest, that often entails going out in sub-zero temperatures and having to dress the dogs in winter boots for their feet (they’re old pups) and coats, so it’s a process. And he does it without complaint. I make sure to thank him for that because that’s his way of taking care of not only the dogs, but me as well. Thank you for the great reminder to complain less and thank more. =o)
Great thoughts, Shannon. Thanks for sharing. :0)
Thank you for reviving this post. One Christmas, my (then) son-in-law gave my daughter a diamond necklace and when I unwrapped my gift from my dear husband, I found that he had given me . . . sneakers. Wow.
Later, I thought it over and realized that I had actually received the most romantic gift. My husband had noticed that I needed new sneakers and he knew my size and what style I would like. Diamond necklaces are one-size-fits-all.
We’re nearing our 44th wedding anniversary and he continues to do sweet, thoughtful things for me every day that show his love. I’m blessed beyond measure.
You sure are! Thanks for sharing! :0)