Originally Published March 29, 2014
Have you ever noticed we use a lot of expressions without giving much thought to their origin or what they really mean? For example, why do we use the phrase, “in a (pretty) pickle” to mean “experiencing a difficult situation”?
Here are six cliches we often use as Christians that could stand to be replaced or at least re-thought:
1. Preach the gospel. If necessary, use words.
Itโs necessary. Use words. While our behavior should certainly prove out our testimony, nobodyโs going to see us working at a soup kitchen or eschewing barhopping and somehow magically understand that he has broken Godโs law and needs to repent and put His faith in Christโs death, burial, and resurrection for the forgiveness of his sin unto eternal life. That has to be explained. Clearly. By us. From the Bible. With words.
2. Rest in peace/God rest his soul
If the person who died was saved, heโs already resting in peace by the time you can get these words out. (2 Corinthians 5:6-8)
If the person who died wasnโt saved, unfortunately, heโs in a place of eternal torment and suffering, and no amount of asking God to rest his soul will give him a respite. Worse, when Christians say this about someone they know was not saved, they reinforce the false idea many lost people have that the dead are โrestingโ in some sort of spiritual coma, or that they simply cease to exist (annihilationism) , or that everybody automatically goes to Heaven (universalism).
Maybe โIโm praying for you,โ or โIโm bringing you dinner,โ would be better.
and speaking of which…
3. Sending positive thoughts/energy your way.
Thoughts and energy are not things you can wrap up in brown paper, haul down to the post office, and mail to somebody. You canโt send them and the other person canโt receive them, and they canโt actually accomplish anything, and everybody knows this. But, commendably, atheists, New Agers, and other non-Christians wanted to have something compassionate to say to people who are hurting, and since they canโt say, โIโm praying for you,โ this is the best they can do.
Christians, weโve got something better. We canย say, “I’m praying for you.”ย We have an open line to the almighty God of the universe who is listening to us and can actually do something about the situation. Pray for that hurting person. Put your arms around her. Listen to her. Do whatever you can to help. Show her Jesus, not empty words.
4. Christianity isnโt a religion, itโs a relationship.
The only people running around today saying that Christianity is not a religion are Christians. Everybody else in the world considers Christianity a religion. And up until this little humdinger materialized, so did Christians.
Usually, what people mean by this is that true Christianity is not an institutionalized system of rote obedience to dead and meaningless rituals. Itโs a reconciliation with the only true God by means of being redeemed by His Son, Jesus Christ, who propitiated and expiated Godโs wrath against us in our sin through His death, burial, and bodily resurrection, and is, therefore, a dynamic and living interpersonal relationship.
But thatโs too long to fit into a tweet or a hashtag.
Our relationship with God through Christ is our religion- the only true religion. And thatโs not a bad thing.
5. Donโt judge someone just because he sins differently than you do.
I find this one confusing, but I think the sentiment behind this is something along the lines of, โI may be an adulterer, but youโre not any less of a sinner just because you only tell the occasional white lie.ย Therefore, you have no right to call me to repentance.โ
This is a lovely casserole of simultaneous truth and falsehood, and it all hinges on the word โjudging,โ which has been tossed around so much that even Christians scarcely know what it means anymore. No, weโre not to berate someone for his sin while pompously pretending weโre sin-free. All have sinned,ย after all, and if we say we have no sin, we lie. But does that mean we should never call anyone to repentance? Of course not! Weโre to walk in repentance ourselves and seek to help the lost find forgiveness in Christย andย help our Christian brothers and sisters who have fallen into sin to be reconciled to Christ.ย Scripture doesn’t say we can never call people out of sin because we have a log in our own eye. It says firstย remove the log andย thenย help your brother.
6. God loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life.
This is actually true, itโs just that our idea of a โwonderful planโ doesnโt always match up with Godโs idea of a โwonderful planโ.
Our desire is to be healthy, wealthy, and blissfully comfortable with never a family problem, fender bender, lost love, or bankruptcy. Godโs desire is for us to be holy. He wants to root the sin out of our lives, show us how to be completely dependent on Him, lead us to trust Him more, build our character and endurance, give us boldness to share the gospel, make us kinder and more merciful, teach us what it means to extend grace and forgive. Most of those lessons are learned only through hardship and suffering. Just ask the apostles or the early church martyrs or our brothers and sisters being persecuted across the globe today.
What are some expressions Christians commonly use that you think we should replace or re-think?
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Excellent repost! I bet I have immaturely slopped one of these dandies around.
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I think we all have! It’s just important to be careful and precise with our language, that’s all :0)
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“God will never give you more than you can handle”
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Oh yes, definitely that one :0)
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Sadly, so many who use these and other phrases, have little knowledge of Biblical truths. This is the age of a feel-good religion that has little or no concept of suffering for Christ. Phases and cliques and not Biblical truths and should not be accepted as such.
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“God is in control.” The sense in which some people use this phrase is the problem: They say it in response to distressing situations like they’re dismissing the possibility that things could go badly. They’re implying that everything is going to be pleasant and turn out the way we want. Not true! The truth is, awful, terrible things happen to all of us, but because God is sovereign, we can have peace in the midst of our tumultuous, tragic life.
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Well said, Robyn :0)
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What do you think of “we can be the hands and feet of Jesus”? In the church we attend that one is used a lot.
Ann
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I think people generally get what that means, but it might be better to clear up the wording a little :0)
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“Everything happens for a reason.” This , to me, is the ultimate in meaningless, comfort phrases.
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Yeah, that one sounds like a watered down version of God’s sovereignty or Romans 8:28 :0)
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