Christian women

You’re Not Awesome…and You Know It

Originally published September 19, 2017

I am absolutely weary of some of the memes aimed at Christian women these days. You know the ones I mean, ladies- the ones with lovely pictures of flowers or an ocean or a meadow with a superimposed flowing script practically BEGGING us to believe how much worth we have to God, how awesome we are, how we need to discover the greatness within, how God gives us limitless potential and a superfantastic divine purpose, blah, blah, blah.

You know why they have to take that begging tone to try to get us to believe those things? Because they’re not true. You know it, and I know it.

You’re not awesome or great or imbued with some radical purpose or potential that will magically make your life phenomenal and give you oodles of self esteem once you discover it.

You’re a dirty, stinking, rotten, rebellious sinner. You yell at your kids. You don’t submit to your husband. You act out of selfishness. You lie. You gossip. You covet. You bow down to your idols instead of to Christ. You sin against a holy and righteous God in a thousand ways every day in thought, word, and deed. Just like I do. Let’s put on our big girl panties and just admit it. (1 John 1:8,10)

That’s why these memes and false teachers have to try so hard to convince us of how terrific we are- deep down we know we’re not. It’s a lie. And putting all our eggs in the basket of that lie of greatness sets us up for disappointment and self-loathing every time we sin.

Ladies, stop listening to this hearts and flowers, cotton candy, pump up your ego so you’ll feel better about yourself dreck, and put your faith and hope in the One who will never let you down. The One who looked at all your nasty thoughts and evil deeds and said, “I’m going to the cross for her anyway.” The One who sees all your daily faults and failures and is still willing to forgive when you repent. The One who’s faithful to you even when you’re not faithful to Him.

Stop focusing on how great you are – because you’re not – and put your focus on Christ and how great, and awesome, and superfantastic, and terrific He is. Because if you’re feeling bad about yourself, it’s not because you don’t have a high enough self esteem. It’s because you don’t have a high enough Christ esteem.

We’re not worthy. He is. Let’s get over ourselves and give Him the glory, and honor, and attention, and focus, and praise He so richly deserves.

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
“therefore I will hope in him.”
Lamentations 3:22-24

7 thoughts on “You’re Not Awesome…and You Know It”

  1. Yes! Thank you Michelle. My husband and I were reading 1 John this week and your post is so timely for me. He IS excellent and worthy and I’m so grateful.
    Bless you!


  2. Oh, yes, our sinful hearts keep believing the lie that contentment only comes from positively being able to answer the question, “Am I good enough?” But we keep focusing on the wrong question. We’ve been liberated from having to feel good enough because we aren’t. My contentment comes when I remember I’m far worse than I even comprehend– and yet– I am completely forgiven! Accepted by Jesus! He loves me lavishly! And heaven is real. What hope. What joy. What encouragement. He desires we fall into His arms with all our sins, our pains, our devotion, our praise. How blessed we are to be among His chosen.


  3. Thank you, Michelle, for just saying it! Straight out “rip the bandaid off” and get it over with. The truth hurts, but THE TRUTH heals! Jesus Christ heals the broken relationship between God and man/woman.

    “For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.” Romans 5:10 NASB

    reconcile = restore
    restore = return, bring back, repair–there it is, repair. What is broken needs repaired; what is lost needs brought back (found, saved).

    Without Jesus we are broken; we are lost.

    “For the Son of Man has come to save that which was lost.” Matthew 18:11

    “whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:13


  4. Oh my gosh, how did I even find you and this blog post? It had to be a God thing. You are my type of straight shooter!


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