Originally published April 24, 2015
Did you have any fears as a child? Monsters? The dark? Dogs? When I was a little girl, I had this record of the story of Peter and the Wolf, and I was afraid of wolves at night (Look at the picture and listen to him growl. Can you blame me?). I just knew they were skulking around my bed in the dark, black as midnight, drooling rabidly, ready to shred me to ribbons should I stick so much as one toe out from under the covers. It was terrifying.
As adults, we look back on those childhood fears with some degree of smugness or embarrassment and think about how silly it was to be scared of something that was never a threat in the first place. But even if we don’t like to admit it, fear is something we grown ups still struggle with, at least from time to time. Finances, health, and our children’s futures may replace wolves, darkness, and the boogeyman, but fear is still fear, whether you’re four or forty.
And God is well aware of that fact.
In my Bible, the phrases “fear not,” “do not be afraid,” and other similar expressions appear over 75 times. Fear is a normal, God-given reaction that can be healthy and keep you safe in the event of a real threat. Fear is a blessing when it motivates you to jump out of the path of a speeding truck or stay away from a rattlesnake, but just like everything else affected by the Fall, fear can often be misdirected and thwart our growth in Christ.
Most of our fears as adults have nothing to do with tangible, imminent, life or limb danger. Usually, we are fearful of “what if’s.”
“What if I get a bad report from the doctor?”
“What if I get fired?”
“What if my teenage daughter gets pregnant?”
In other words, we worry about what might happen.
It’s really easy to sing “‘Tis So Sweet to Trust in Jesus,” on Sunday, but much harder to actually do the work of trusting Him on Monday. Worry almost seems woven into the fiber of our DNA. In fact, worry has been such a common theme in the human experience that Jesus took time to address it during his Sermon on the Mount:
Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? 28 And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 29 yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. 34 “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Clearly, it is not God’s will for us to worry. No matter how strangling our fear may feel, God wants us to trust Him in everything, from the most dire situation to the most mundane. But how?
Make sure the object of your trust is the right one.
A popular false teaching from the Word of Faith (prosperity gospel) camp these days is that it’s never God’s will for you to be sick, poor, or experience tragedy. If you just have enough faith, and decree and declare enough, you can yank whatever outcome you want right out of the hands of God. Do you know why that’s not true?
Arguably the mightiest men of faith in history, eleven of the twelve disciples were martyred. So was Paul. David, whom God said was “a man after His own heart” suffered tragedy after tragedy. Jesus Himself prayed in Gethsemane that God would keep Him from having to go to the cross, and God said no.
Like these godly men, as Christians, we do not place our faith in positive outcomes. We place our faith in Christ, and His sufficiency for us in all things, regardless of the outcome. Make sure you’re trusting Christ, not what you want Him to give you.
Get off the guilt train.
Sometimes we can fall into Satan’s trap of believing that if we’re really saved or really trusting the Lord or really have faith, we’ll never fear anything. Then, when those worries creep in, we start feeling guilty. We’re not supposed to have those feelings.
Have you ever read the story of Gideon? Gideon was one scared dude, and he had good reason to be. But even though he was scared and fumbling, he believed and obeyed the Lord. And the Lord commended him for being a man of great faith.
Trusting Christ doesn’t mean you’ll never be afraid of anything. Trusting Christ means you keep believing Him, keep loyal to Him, and keep obeying Him even when you are afraid.
Take reasonable precautions.
Trusting God doesn’t mean you should be careless. Eat healthy and exercise. Be frugal. Watch your children carefully. God gave us a whole book about using wisdom, and He gave us brains, so let’s use them.
You’re not in this by yourself.
God has promised never to leave you or forsake you. He has promised to give you the strength to deal with anything you come up against. He has promised you a way out of temptation. Trust that God is with you and will help you.
Rehearse your trust instead of your fear.
A lot of therapists will encourage you not to “repress” your fears but, rather, talk about them, write about them, examine them, etc. In other words, rehearse them (which only leads to more fear, because fear feeds off itself). But the Bible never says to do that. It says, “do not fear” and “trust in the Lord.” Period. No analysis required.
Those worries may start creeping in, but you don’t have to set the table and turn down the bed for them. Push them right out of your mind, slam the door behind them, and say (out loud is helpful), “No. I’m not going to worry. I’m going to trust the Lord.” You’ll still feel worried at first, but “fake it ’til you make it.”1 Your feelings will eventually follow.
Replace fearful thoughts with biblical thoughts.
After you’ve pushed those fearful thoughts out of your mind, consciously redirect your focus to trusting the Lord. Spend a few minutes in prayer asking God to help you trust Him. Put on some biblical worship music that focuses on the goodness of God, and sing along. Be thankful- start listing all the ways God is good and has blessed you. Recite and meditate on Scripture about trusting God. Some of my favorites are:
When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. Psalm 56:3
For the righteous will never be moved; he will be remembered forever. He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord. Psalm 112:6-7
for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7
Get your mind off it.
Watch a good movie. Have coffee with a friend. Better yet, serve someone who needs your help. Share the gospel with someone who’s lost. Get your mind off the worries and on to something better.
Go running or do some physical labor around the house or something like that. Either you’ll get some endorphins going and you’ll start feeling better or the shin splints and backache will completely erase any memory of whatever you were afraid of.
Repent and get a fresh start.
Sometimes (often, if you’re like me), you’re going to blow it. You’re going to give in to fear and let it control you instead of trusting God. You’re going to act on your fears and disobey God instead of trusting and obeying Him in spite of your fears. When that happens, don’t run away from the Lord. Run to Him. Repent and be forgiven. That’s what His mercy and grace are all about.
Worries are a normal part of life in a fallen world, but, in Christ, we are not to be enslaved by them. We have a Savior who is sovereign over all things. He clothes the grass with lilies. He feeds the wild birds. And He cares oh so much more for you. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and fear not.
How do you deal with worry in a godly way?
1If you’re unfamiliar with the phrase “fake it til you make it,” in this context, it simply means that we should obey Scripture (in this case the Scriptures that tell us to trust God) regardless of how we feel about it and trust God to eventually line our feelings up with His Word.
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11 thoughts on “Throwback Thursday ~ Fear Not: 9 Biblical Ways to Trade Worry for Trust”
Superb post, Michelle! As someone who confesses the sin of anxiety almost daily, I really needed these wise words!
Thank you, my friend! SDG. :0)
I’ve been following your blog since Open Hearts in a Closed World Conference 2021. I enjoyed your talk during the conference. You seem like a sweet, wise woman whom I’d love to have coffee with a glean from as a Titus 2 woman.
Thank you for this post. I, too, have to confess daily the sin of anxiety and fear and self-sufficiency. The “Get Off the Guilt Train” and “Rehearse Your Trust and Not Your Fear” sections were particularly helpful. This has been a coddled sin for a while in my life, and I’m still desperately learning to put it to death. To keep believing and obeying even when, especially when, my feelings don’t line up. I specifically appreciated you giving me permission to dismiss anxious or fearful thoughts instead of rehashing what I know to be true or analyzing the fear. It is SO popular these days for that advice to be given and I needed the reminder that that is not Biblical counsel.
Again, thank you, dear sister. I plan on printing this article out to have handy for review. If you’re at the G3 conference this year, I’d love to meet you!
Hi Amanda- Thank you so much for your kind words. It is my pleasure to serve you in Christ. I dearly wish I could be at G3 this year, but I have too many speaking engagements of my own to fit it in. Maybe next year. :0)
Thank you for these timely reminders, Michelle!
I love this: “You’ll still feel worried at first, but “fake it ’til you make it.” Your feelings will eventually follow.”
I heard one of the ladies from the Bible Reading Challenge (can’t remember if it was Nancy Wilson or one of her girls) say emotions are like dogs, and WE need to be in control, not them. When they start to rise up and cause trouble, you say, “Quit barking and get off the couch!!!” That often works for me as a great reminder cuz I see the picture and if nothing else it gives me a smile — at the picture and at myself for letting them up there on the couch again in the first place…. 😀
The other two that kind of go together in a way, are 6 Replace fearful thoughts with biblical thoughts. and 7 Get your mind off it, at least for me, because for years now when I have been struggling with something, whether it’s fear or pain or sorrow, something that just won’t go away, I have tried to remind myself to pray for others who may be going through the same issue. I don’t have to know their names, I just have to ask God to minister to others who may be experiencing the same struggles. That accomplishes both tactics at once and leaves me feeling like what I’m going through has been at least partly worth it even if only because it caused me to pray for someone else.
I’m so glad this was helpful, Laurel. Thanks so much for sharing. :0)
It was a blessing to read your comment. The being in charge of emotions analogy—telling the dog to stop barking and get off the couch—was especially helpful! Thank you for sharing. Our God is the God of all hope!
Could you tell me where Scripture teaches “fake it till you make it” ?
“fake it ’til you make it”. A phrase easier said than done. But where stands it written? I would say this is not true. Michelle I trust your wisdom and knowledge, but this phrase…not so much. I asked sarcastically where I could find it in Scripture knowing it’s not written. I was hoping to have a response to my previous email, but no reply as yet. God’s word is based on truth not feelings. Trusting feelings when it comes to “fake it ’til you make it” I find is not sound wisdom. Allowing the Holy Spirit to change me is trusting in Him not myself…whether it’s fear or feelings.
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