Homosexuality, Mailbag

Throwback Thursday ~ The Mailbag: Should Christians Attend Homosexual “Weddings”?

Originally published August 15, 2016



“Should a Christian attend the wedding of a homosexual friend or loved one?”

Matt Moore, a Christian who was saved out of the homosexual lifestyle, does a beautiful job in this article of answering this question by first examining the two reasons Christians typically give for attending such weddings.

I would echo his responses to both of those reasons and agree with his answer that, no, Christians should not attend homosexual weddings. Attending a wedding implies that a person is in favor of the union, and no matter how much we love the person, Christ calls us to love Him more and not participate in or give approval to sin.

Speaking of lost people who approve of the sin of others, Romans 1:32 says:

“Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.”

If it is an abomination to God for sinners to give approval to the sins of others, how much more abominable is it in His sight for Christians to give approval to the sins of others?

I love this quote from Matt’s article:

“Yes, God is love. Yes, God is merciful and gracious. But God’s love, mercy and grace are saturated in holiness and that is why his Son was mutilated on a Roman cross for our sins. God hates sin. If we want our lives to show unbelievers the true character of our loving and holy God, we must be people who set ourselves apart from the evils of this world. And a gay marriage ceremony is a celebratory glorification of blatant evil. A Christian abstaining from a loved one’s ceremony would give witness to the holiness of God – a characteristic of His which most are failing to believe still exists.”

Additional Resources:

Should I attend the wedding of a gay friend or family member? by Denny Burk

Should Christians Attend Gay Weddings? Does It Matter Whether They’re Religious or Secular? by Randy Alcorn and Kevin DeYoung

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2 thoughts on “Throwback Thursday ~ The Mailbag: Should Christians Attend Homosexual “Weddings”?”

    1. I would advise Christians not to attend the wedding of a professing believer to an unbeliever due to Scripture’s admonition against this in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18. Again, Christians should not be supporting, participating in, or giving the appearance of supporting, sin, and a believer marrying someone he/she knows is an unbeliever is sin.

      There is no biblical prohibition against an unsaved man and an unsaved woman getting married, so unless there are other grounds on which you cannot support the union (for example- you know he abuses her or you know she’s been cheating on him during the engagement), you would not be supporting, participating in, or appearing to support sin by attending the wedding of two unsaved heterosexual people.


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